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writes:Hi, So Recently I've felt very different from how I normally feel. Typically I'm a very generally happy person and even when I'm sad or upset certain people can easily cheer me up and make me happy, as well as I don't normally keep my negative feelings long. However, recently my boyfriend and I broke up and I was upset but was more upset when he lied to me and completely changed into an asshole who insults me to our mutual friends and blocked me on Skype and Text (which is how we communicated because he doesn't have social media). I haven't bothered him but I tried to talk to him once and figured it out. I was upset about breaking up but I was more upset about him lying to me, saying that we were still friends (I hadn't even asked about being friends, he just brought it up himself, but I was happy he said that), calling me a hoe to a mutual friend (when I do not act, dress, sleep around, never had sexual relations, and have only been in a serious relationship with him. He has also been insulting me when I did nothing to him (which many others believe I did nothing wrong, even mutual friends that are closer with him than I), saying I was a huge mistake, and other things. We broke up about 20 or so days ago and it still hurts. I really want to get over him and I thought him being so rude and hurtful would make me lose feelings faster, but it hasn't. I still care about him. Another reason I'm feeling different is because it's my first year of high school, and today was my first day. I don't know my way around at all, I sat alone at lunch because no friends are in my lunch period, and have no friends in a lot of classes. Now while one would say this is a great opportunity to make new friends, I know little to none of the kids from the other middle school and my middle school gets split up, so while all the kids from the other middle school have lots of friends and don't care about making any new ones because they are with their old ones they also do not have a good reputation and many of them aren't making very good first impressions. My old school is known for being the preppy, athletic, pretty well off kids, while the other middle school was constantly checked for drugs, has very bad behaved kids, slots, and a lot of other not so great things. I'm a pretty shy person until you get to know me and the rumors, reputations, and first impressions are not really making me want to go out of my comfort zone to make friends either. So basically, after the breakup I was upset and I still am, and on top of things my school seems awful. I know barely anyone besides my friends who I have no classes with, and I've gotten lost every period, and now I feel in a slump... My heart aches all the time, I wish I was at the other high school, and for the last little while I've felt sad, and nothing seems interesting or has a point. Today just added on top of the sadness and dread and I really don't want this to progress into anything serious... Everyone is saying give it time, but I really am not seeing any bright or positive sides. Please please please help. Thx.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (19 August 2015):
 I don't know any teenagers that like school. Even when I am 18 years out of school, I still occasionally dream about getting lost on campus. The dream theme is anxiety. School, dormitory rooms became an archetype for feeling lost in life in general.
What makes a good school is that it's resourceful and it takes care of the student. I would definitely talk to a school counsellor as he/she is the liaison between you, the parents and the school. You came from a heartbreak and it's hard to see anything positive at first. Therapy is only a part of school. It can't magically change your life for the better. A good experience in school is a sum of hard work by its students. That means you have the power to make an influence on how school works for you. You can join clubs that nurture your talents. Never count on what the school can do for you alone. Take charge and make the most out of it. One good thing about the school is that your ex isn't there anymore. If you don't know anyone that means no one heard the bad rumours that were spread by your ex.
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