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writes:Any advice would be greatly appreciated, honestly I'm unsure about where I should go from here, my girlfriend and I were together over a year and it was great, there were no signs of any problems. She went away for a couple of weeks and then came the bad news. She ended things with me, she felt attracted to someone while she was away, she didn't act on it in any way but still felt she had to end things no matter how much I tried to persuade her to try and work on things, we decide to stay Friends, After a while I'm happy and move on, we start talking again about two months later, the space gave her perspective and says she regrets ending things and wants to try again, saying after we broke up her life fell apart and she was miserable, I guess my question is...do I try and work things out even though I'm terrified she's going to break my heart again? She does make me happier than anyone but that's why it hurt so much the first time, advice please?
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (18 August 2015):
She probably wanted to break up so she could date this other guy. It didn't work out so she is crawling back to you. There's nothing that would prevent it from happening again so just tell her no thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2015): I was in a similar situation where we fought because some guy came on to me but i wasnt attracted to him at all. Well, tbh, I gave my relationship with my bf a second chance and I'm still with him until today. What I'm trying to say is that, you could give it another chance.. People make mistakes and well she didn't act on her attraction and now that she realised what she had, she wants another go at your relationship. I can see that you are in love with her but is afraid to get hurt. Well, if you don't take a risk, you may have let the love of your life walk by you. However, it is entirely up to you. I can only offer you my opinion and advise. Best of luck! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2015): Hellothat's very tough.has she dated other men since your split? looks like you split two months back....not a big break.What was going on before she went away? What trigger her change whilst away? Do you believe nothing happened with this guy she was attracted to? I day that because it would be unusual to split with someone just because you found someone else attractive .... even if nothing happened with this guy, there will very likely have been other triggers to her breaking up with you- her feelings changing for whatever reason etc.What has changed now? Why does she think things are different? Why do you? What's going to keep you together? I guess the bottom line is this: you will run the risk of being hurt again. Do you want to give it another go more than you fear her ending it again?
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (18 August 2015):
 Only you can know if it is worth continuing. Heartache is part of life. If you try and shield yourself from it you will be a lesser person. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to have a second helping from the same person.
Perhaps you need a little time to get things, 'In perspective', too. You don't have to be on-call at her whim.
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