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writes:Hey, My girlfriend of four years said we needed to go on a break around two months ago, but now she's talking as if we are seperated. Also, we had booked a trip away together before the 'break' which we decided to still go on. On the trip, she totally changed her tune. She told me she loved me, wanted to be with me, wasn't sure if she had done the right thing. Yet when we got home, I have been completely ignored by her. She has left me in limbo and when I finally managed to speak to her, she said she wanted to do her own thing again.I really love and miss her and the break came as a complete shock to me but I don't want to feel like this any longer as I am feeling down due to the fact I only really think about her, even when I am out with my friends or at work.Can anybody please tell me what they think I should do? I really appreciate any advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): seems like she was using you, i know it must hurt but you should move on now.
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reader, schweg +, writes (15 July 2007):
 hi .from reading your post it sounds like your girlfriend doen't know what she wants really. she may be scared of the relationship and its commitment.have you considered that she may be seeing someone else. i know exactly how you feel i have just lost my girlfriend of five and a half years. sadly for a relationship to work it requires both partys to be driving the same car and in the same direction. maybe you need to back off a bit and see if she comes to you, dont scare her away. if she doesn'y come back then maybe she was never really there.
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reader, Jonty +, writes (15 July 2007):
 I have been in your situation twice now and there is not much you can do. I don't know what it is but when you go out with a girl for that period of time, at around 21, they start to change and want to be free to see other blokes. I bet you havent even done anything wrong, it's just something that happens.
My advice would to leave her well alone and get on with your life, keep yourself active to get over the girl and I would even bet after you leave her alone for a bit, she has seen the grass isnt greener, and may even come back to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): not trying to seem nasty, but it seems she was getting all she could on holiday, and then when she got back home... she didn't need you again. It's not nice in the slightest but i think the thought of her coming back for real is a far distant fantasy. Sorry .
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