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writes:I'm from PA, my girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years and it has gotten so horrible, her mom warned me how she was she, used to abuse her mom. I just thought they didn't get along now I'm the one she takes it out on, she is like 2 people, she hits me, pulls my hair, I have to shave my chest hair because she would not let go at times and then she laughs she always tells me to leave. If I leave for a few hours she tells me I don't care about her because I left then she says not to come back. She threw the engagement ring at me numerous times, busted nick nacks over my head, throws food and dishes at me, if she don't get her own way I get the effect of it and it's always my fault. If she can't find something like her keys, shoes etc she throws scenes and then posts stuff on her myspace that I'm a bad person, I don't even do anything but love her! She never says it back, I tell her I love her all the time.. I need help, she is 20 I'm 25 can anyone help, has anyone been here before?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): Hello. I have been browsing these posts and yours jumped out at me. It sounds like your wife might have some traits of a personality disorder known as BORDERLINE. I have dealt with borderlines before and I recognized the behaviors.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): Violence isn't love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): She throws things at you, pulls your hair, her own mother warned you etc and you tolerate all these outbursts and moreover say you love her. Is this the family picture you want your children to be in? I never understood how such persons can actually be loved. She abuses you, tramples you underfoot and ridicules your dignity and you say you love her; maybe it's that you need to be dominated in your subconsciousness, that should be remedied. She needs help and you also, in order to recover the sense of dignity. Maybe you haven't had the chance to meet somebody else but it actually is possible to feel respected and this is what we should all tend to above all, respect. The three R's: it's Respect, Responsibility, Responsiveness. You should respect yourself and not allow others to tell you differently or minimise you anyhow. Respect begins with being responsible of oneself which you're obviously not or you would not have given in to such treatment. Responsiveness, acting in conformity to the circumstances -you can't predict how a relationship will work, but you have to respond to the context. You couldn't have anticipated in the beginning the situation was to become so tense, and your response to this should be a "no." Help her if possible by contacting a specialist, and for goodness help yourself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): clearly she needs help. if you love her then you can be with her and help her through it but you can't just leave it or expect a heart to heart to fix things. she needs to see a doctor very soon
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): Hi darling, Im not a doctor I nursed for 20yrs love and one thing is for sure, She needs professional help... I have seen this kind of behaviour before and it could be down to a personality disorder.
Then again she may just want her own way but to abuse people as she has done as you said her mother and now you...A personality disorder can have symptoms of not wanting another person to leave when the person with the disorder is frustrated having outbursts of unusual violent tantrums going as far as to grab at a person for trying to leave and holding on to them hitting punching and so forth, Feeling low and sometimes very insecure one minute everything seems fine then the next violence can come from knowere, feelings of paranoia for no reason...shouting and very abusive to anyone who may say something that is meant quite normal in passing conversation and unable to control these outbursts....
You do need to get help for you love you cant live this way and she even though may or may not have this problem, has definatly got some issue and needs help to, if she wont get help then I really think its important that you do, You are being abused which ever way you look at it and you could do with some support and advise from a doctor...
HOPE THIS HELPS LOVE TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXX
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