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writes:How do I stop myself from being angry when my fiance rejects my sexual advances?I am a very attractive woman in my mid 20s, my fiance (who is six years older than I) and I have been together for two years. He regularly rejects my sexual advances. It upsets me because I know he was very wild in his younger days. I, on the orher hand saved myself until him. My fiance has had threesomes and other types of sex I would never consider. Still, he refuses me regularly.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCaftin, thank you for the great advice! I talked to him and he promises to be more considerate. So far, so good!
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reader, Caftin +, writes (26 July 2013):
 Have you spoken to him about it?
Sometimes men really don't realise the consequences of their actions.
If you explain to him how you never had the chance to be adventurous, that you saved yourself for him, it means that your wild days are now, with him, so when he rejects you, it hurts you a lot.
A calm civil talk might just be the eye opener he needs to realise his wrongs.
It can't always be on his terms when you have sex etc, sometimes he needs to get it up for you, like you need to get in the mood for him. I know that's an assumption, but that was one of the things I mentioned to my boyfriend when we hit a bump in the road.
I told him that it was unfair that I take a pill all the time to stop us from getting pregnant yet we never take advantage of having protective sex. I said, what was the point in me taking it when he hardly takes my advantages. After saying a hell of a lot more, he realised and sex life got a hell of a lot better :) I can't guarantee this would be the same outcome for you, but you should at least talk this out with him, and be completely honest, because he can't read your mind, he needs to be told darlin.
Hope everything works out for you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2013): Wow you're in the same boat as me.
I felt very hurt when my partner started refusing my sexual advances. I thought there was something wrong with me. Now I know there's something wrong with him. Have you talked to him about how it makes you feel? Show him how it makes you feel and think about if you want married life to be like this because I don't think he will change.
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