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writes:hey allim in a relation ship and its been going on for 3 months now..ive been knowing her for 3 years because she is a work collage too..we never actually spoken for long time together, but 5 months ago we got out together and shared our feelings, we spoke about things and i felt really good with her so i talked to her and told her that i want a serious relation ship, after 1month dating and meeting her every time, she had decided to continue in a relation ship with me..shes a student at university and at these months she have exams so shes a bit stressed up. im not actually into school and i don`t know exactly the feeling of exams stress how it is, but is it normal that shes being `cold` from me lately?..i hate to use the word but shes like ignoring me and i`m thinking that shes seeing me like i do nothing in my life, even when we talk on the phone she always mention my past and we end up arguing all the time and never find the right subject to talk about.im not meeting her alot due to her exams and studying just for an hour after work and even not every day :(, and im missing her alot..i always think on her and when i go see her pictures on fb for example i see old pictures or see her profile picture with another girl not me..she changed her status and so, but im not feeling her happy with me..what should i do? i tried to talk to her but she just told me that its not the time to talk as she have exams..i think i need to wait...i love her alot i dont wanna lose herpls any suggestions because im being stressed up all the timelast time she told me that we are arguing alot and that we dont find anything to talk about..is she getting annoyed? i told her that we didnt experiance time togheter yet :/ but whats wrong..i really love this girl pls help
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): One word, Patience.My girlfriend is taking exams at the moment, I have been with her for 8 months. Fortunately I have had exams earlier in the year so we both understand the stress of deadlines. During times when one partner is busy you must 'ease off the pedal' and give them space.At the same time, plan things for her to look forward to after her exams. e.g. a weekend away together. This will give her something to work towards and some motivation during exams.In the meantime, during exams, simply make her laugh, make her happy, and make her look forward to seeing you and not something she needs to simply 'fit into her busy schedule'.Hope this helps - Main thing is to plan something she can look forward to after her exams. A weekend holiday is always a winner!
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reader, ClearSorted  +, writes (2 June 2011):
First thing first donot ignore your studies and dont disturb hers.. After the exams are over sit down, write things you want to clear before hand and speak. dont let her treat you like a doormat. dont get into an argument. respect yourself and let past be past. tell her you want a fresh phase. if by chance she still says no, moveon. give her a reasonable time if she asks for. all the best.
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