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writes:OK now my girlfriend who is 20 years old, she is in costa rica for internship and staying with a host family. Now the host family is really nice but she has told me that the host father is a flirt. He is a nice guy but at times he would hug her or touch her arms when no one is looking. This makes her uncomfortable but she has told me that men are like that in costa rica, its the culture. He has done that several times but he is behaving for the past couple of weeks.Now today my girlfriend told me that her host mother and sister are spending the night at some camping and as a result my girlfriend has to spend the night alone with her host father. Now I am very worried about this situation. She cant go with them cuz its a school thing. So she is stuck at house with this guy.What do you think my girlfriend should have done? Is it risky to spend a night alone at house with a guy like that?i mean he is a nice guy but just a flirt.Thanks
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 It is a cause for concern. Ask your g/f to lock herself in her room and don't go out for safety reasons.
I think she would know how to handle the situation there and asked her to be careful .
I hope that you won't let your imaginations run wild.
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reader, soul83  +, writes (28 March 2010):
Well, for starters be careful. Having said that, I'm sure your girlfriend is capable of standing up for herself. I'm surprised that she 'went along' with the touching. That's completely unacceptable from a married man and she is supposed to be in a relationship with you right?
I would be incluned to think that it would've been ok if she had refused him. She shouldn't let him touch her so much. If he's showing interest, is it safe for her to refuse?
Another issue is that she is going to be alone with him. That's dangerous if he turns on her following her refusal to do anything.
Just keep your wits about you and encourage the girlfriend to find somewhere safe for the night if she doesn't trust the father. She's expressed feeling uncomfortable with his behaviour so perhaps she should stay overnight in a hotel or somewhere away from the home? Can she make the excuse of going to a friend's house or wanting to stay otu late shopping/partying (and stay at a hotel nearby)?
She's old enough to be autonomous and make her own mind up as to where she goes and what she does so getting a hotel shouldn't be a major issue.
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