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male
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30-35,
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writes:Hey Dear CupidI have been going out with this girl for 2 months and she makes me go crazy for her. I love this girl. Lately I have been wanting sex... I don't know what to do because we would be making out and she just takes her top off and bra off and thats as far as it gets and we continue to make out. Then she rests on me. Thats it. Mean while I get a boner and its like I feel like I have to. I think I am ready to but protected obviously. I just don't know what she wants and I don't want to pressure her into it. What do I do?
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reader, Limits  +, writes (17 August 2008):
I agree with the others as well...and believe me it is really worth waiting and postponing a couple of weeks more (2 months is a bit too early); tease her and tease her again and finally when she's confident and ready, she will push you onto to bed and jump on top of you until you will have to get an oxygen bottle to recover! :-)))
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): How about try some hand jobs and oral first, and see if she's up for it? Then take things further after that
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): I agree with the others in the sence that you should take things slowly, and enjoy the journey! However, there is nothing wrong talking about sex with her, but in a non threatening way. Ask her how she feels about it, make jokes together, go underwear shopping together etc. This way you will easily be able to tell what she is prepared to do, and how soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): Obviously you wait. You definitely don't want to pressure her. Just because she takes her top off for you, by no means does that really mean she's ready for the big she-bang.
You want to do EVERYTHING there is to do first. Seeing her boobies is still child's play my friend... explore each other's bodies, really get to know what makes her tick physically, before just going all the way. I mean that's like trying to play a guitar at Jimi Hendrix-level---without even being able to yankee doodle fluidly! You have to build up gradually to that level of expertise...you've just begun to even learn the notes to yankee doodle; you're not Jimi Hendrix yet...kissing her, REALLY kissing her; exploring her upper body, where to touch that'll make her shiver; fondling her breasts, sucking them; exploring lower body, mutual masturbation, hand jobs(and there are so many ways to do this), oral sex(you on her, she on you; again, MANY ways/positions to experiment with), dry-humping...
All this should take some time. Be patient.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): well, if your girlfriend does not want to go any further don't pressure her she might be nervous or she might think the same way you do. but if i may ask aren't you to young to have any sexual contact????. oohh and an other thing 2 months going out eh??? well try 2 keep going out she might loosen up. let her trust you first. A girl doesn't wish to be pressured but she also doesn't want to stay at 1 level 4 ever.sooner then later she MIGHT loosen up.
hope this helped i'm new at all of this plz give me a break :'(
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