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male
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36-40,
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writes:I want to have sex with my girlfriend as we are living with each other since last 3 yrs i told her i can use condom while doing sex but yet she is not ready for doing sex wht should i do?
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (20 November 2008):
if she is not ready for sex then you have to respect her wish and leave her alone untill she is ready to have sex. you CAN'T do anything to make her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): If you guys are in the age range of 18-21 you must still be at college.Are your parents fine with this?Living together story doesn't strike true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): You respect her request and stop pressuring her to do something she's not ready to do. Like another person said, maybe she does want to get married first. I know I personally do (and wouldn't compromise that for the world). Maybe she's afraid that if you have ex with her now you'll A-not want to marry her, B-get her pregnant (REALLY condoms break), or C- maybe it'll kill her self worth. If you love your girlfriend and do actually care about her, you'll respect her wishes. If you love her you wouldn't want any of the things I listed above to happen to her. That's my opinion, I hope it helps.
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reader, MissUnique +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Hey if she's not ready, support her and never try to force her. She isn't ready yet, so respect that. She'll just hate you if you try and force her, and that includes slyly saying things like 'You would never hurt her' or 'We'll be careful and safe' When she's ready, she'll appreciate you so much for understanding and waiting. If you love her, just wait, even if you don't understand her reasons fully, try and be supportive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): Well, you should respect her wishes and just masterbate.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 She isn't ready......You wait! If you can't hold out you might consider moving on. However if you love her this could be too hard. Remember that Sex isn't everything although it can be a very important part of a relationsip. It is like the icing on a cake....when prepared correctly it can be very sweet!
Don't rush the sex thing. Let it happen naturally. She perhaps is waiting on MARRIAGE....which is what alot of people still do even in the year 2008.
I would suggest taking time to enjoy the flavors of life before finishing off the CAKE! Give her the time she needs and see what happens.If you love one another waiting won't hurt a thing, it can only make it better.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, imsoconfused +, writes (14 November 2008):
 you wait. if you try to talk her onto you she may resent you later
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