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writes:Hi,I have been with my girlfriend for about 7 months now. Just recently she had to have Hysterectomy done which means she will not be able to have kids. I love her to death but I also would love to have kids (my own biologicla kids). So, my question to you is what should I do? I know for some of you this might sound like a stupid question but I would really appreciate yor opinions.Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, Ashford angel  +, writes (30 May 2008):
you could go for surrgosey (sorry about spelling) or adoption as there are many children that need a family. From the way you have written this you sound like you love and respect her very much and when the time comes thats right for the both of you talk and i'm sure you would come to a result thats right for you. good luck for the future
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Well the fact that you are asking the question seems to me like this girl is very important to you.
At the end of the day do you love this girl of yours?
Having a biological child of your own is not an impossibility as there are surrogate mothers who could carry the child for you.
I realise this issue may well be very sensitive for your gf but in my opinion if you love her enough you will work through this issue together. If you don't have strong feelings for her then at least talk to her and let her know how you feel about having children of your own.
I think perhaps some counselling may help you address some of these issues but first of all maybe go and chat with your own doctor who could possibly put you in touch with someone professionally who has dealt with a young woman who has had to have a hysterectomy at a young age.
This is not something that can be left forever but by hiding this away it will cause major problems in the future and that is not fair on either of you.
Wish you all the very best OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 This is a good question. The answer will seem simple for anyone not personally involved. Either you stay with her, or you leave her. I think you could perhaps adopt a child. This child wouldn't be biologically yours, but those are your options.
Make sure your girl gets some hormone replacement therapy. She will need it.
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