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writes:My girlfriend is moving out after discovering a MySpace account I created for the purpose of chatting with others. She feels that I was planing to go further than just chatting. This is from someone who stayed in touch with a past love for 10 months and admittedly, "had strong feelings for him" She still wants to only date me, says she loves me but says we should just let things happen naturally. I believe we need to TALK to resolve distrust. She is "Exhausted Emotionally"I feel that she is simply buying time to get out and then will cut and run once all belongings are removed. Comments please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): I personally think that myspace is a social menace and is just another opportunity for anyone to get in touch with anyone - and yes this includes flirting. One word of warning (and there is plenty in the media about this) it is very easy for people to find out a lot about others - what they look like, name, personal details etc and I think it won't be long before it is a fraudsters paradise. As for the relationship - if it upsets you he shouldn't do it. Myspace is an ego boost for those who cannot find any other way of feeling good about themselves and have to prove how popular they are. I hope the website is eventually banned.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 I need to recognize I didn't know MySpace. With the information given by the two ladies, I think she's somewhat justified to say she's leaving. However, my advice is the same: if she wants to leave, justified or not, let her have her way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): I broke up with my fiancé because he opened a myspace account and started adding strange women to it. At first it bothered me but I didn't gave it much thought because I can't interfere with everything in his life. But when I realized that he was giving more attention to it than to our relationship I got very sad and depressed. And it had a lot to do with our breaking up 2 mos. ago. A myspace account is a 24/7 personal page with a very big flirting potential. Is a very subtle and "innocent" way to meet new singles near you and I believe is ruining relationships everywhere. Because is a personal space online in wich you are allowing strangers to come into. And if you have a personal relationship with someone already it's only natural that he/she will become mad because is something personal you are not sharing with him/her but with people who should be less meaningful to you. Sadly a lot of single women/men don't respect the fact that you logged in as a person who is in a relationship already. They will flirt with you inevitably. So think! If this stupid page is more important than her well get married with the page.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): well the word "discovered" is the key here i think. why didn't you tell her about it. maybe that's what she thought was suspicious. it does seem trivial but if she can't trust you to tell her things and be open then why would she trust you to be faithful
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (15 July 2007):
In my humble opinion, you're sooo right. Let her go if that's what she wishes.
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reader, sweeite  +, writes (15 July 2007):
my boyfriend has a myspace account and at 1st i was so un happy about it as i also said he was on there for girls but then when i saw what people do on there i open an account of my own i dont use it and aint got no friends but i just did it. maybe if you show your girlfriend all the different things you can do on it she might see things different or maybe she can join in when you do it show her she has nothing to worry about. as for her admitting she had strong feelings for her ex she told you she never lied and even knoe she told you, you picked to stay with her. i think if you to talk about it you to will both realise you have something good together.
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