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writes:So my girlfriend is in prison. She has been locked up for thirteen months. There is this other girl that she has developed and emotional attachment to.My girlfriend says that they are just friends, but there are little things that they do to make me question otherwise. I want to believe her when she says that she does not care about the other girl the way she care about me. I feel like I am losing my mind. I love her so much, and she is my best friend. I really do not want to lose her but I don't want to be walked all over either. Please help
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (24 February 2013):
Wow! You are special or is that her? You sound like a nice guy. I would love to know why your gf is in prison. Why you are choosing to wait for her.
It is natural for your gf to have an emotional bond with her. Your gf is in prison and leans on this girl for support. They are sharing the same experiences but that doesn't mean she is "sexually involved" with her. Tell her your fears. Tell her how you feel. Be kind with your words as I'm sure your gf is going through a tough time.
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 I think you need to be careful with this one. For example, you say your girlfriend has "developed an emotional attachment" to this other girl. I am emotionally attached to my friends, it doesn't mean anything or that it is something more. Furthermore, they are both incarcerated together and therefore going through similar problems and experiencing similar emotions etc, it is not altogether surprising that they are forming a friendship.What are the "little things" that make you think something else on? Without knowing those it is hard for me, or indeed anybody, to judge how rational these fears are. Be careful not to push her away and into the arms of this other person.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (24 February 2013):
 Sorry but i have to say this- why would you want to date somebody who is in prison? Don't you feel you deserve better than a criminal? If you don't then that is up to you.If you want to stay with her then that is the cost, never really knowing what she is up to or who she is with, and she will more than likely feel the same about you. You can ask her what she is or isn't doing, but in the end it all comes down to trust.
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