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writes:Hi I've gone on 2 dates with a guy. We got along very well, spent the whole date laughing and talking about how much we had in common. He invited me back to his house both times but I declined. While we were at dinner talking he told me that he was in a different place in life than he thought he'd be, because he thought hed be married by now. He also mentioned his friends are mostly all married bc they're mostly older (he's 26)Now he's asking me to get together again, but he keeps suggesting that we grab a drink and go to his place. I really like him and honestly i want to go but I'm just a little concerned how he keeps asking we go back to his house since the first time. I really want to but I'm afraid ruining chances at a relationship. Do you think he's interested in a relationship or just sex? He's invited me back to his place since day one but I also don't see why he'd mention thinking hed like to be married by now if he was just trying to have sex?Thanks for any opinions ;) Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 Just sex.
Why would he mention thinking he'd like to be married by now...?
To make you think that he is the serious type and that it would NOT be all about sex.
Apparently, it worked :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 If he keeps wanting you to go to his place then yes.. it's all sex.
"He's invited me back to his place since day one but I also don't see why he'd mention thinking hed like to be married by now if he was just trying to have sex?"
Oh that's easy. He talks about marriage because it is a sure way to make women spread their legs. Really, why would he talk about wanting to be married on the first dates anyway?? That type of serious stuff is something you talk about when in a serious relationship, not on the first date. It's just smooth-talking to make you think he wants to marry you.. some day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): How well do you know him? If you don't feel safe, don't go to his house yet and when you do make sure someone knows where you are. You don't need to work out if he just wants you there for sex, because if you don't want to, just don't let it happen. If you get to his house and he pushes you for it, tell him you don't have sex with anyone you are not in an exclusive relationship with. Then, don't be in an exclusive relationship with him till you want to be. It's actually up to you to check him out, and not 'allow' steps along the way till you are ready, and you trust him. Unless he specifically tells you, I would take every thing he says at face value and make your decisions based on that.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 This guy doesnt kno how to close. Yes only sex and if u go out again he will prob say anything and I do mean anything in order for u to say yes ill come back.
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