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writes:Hello everyone, I want help/opinions on my over 3 yrs relationship. you see my girlfriend is a great person but she is not a great girlfriend. Its hard to stay happy with her. Shes really delicate in t sense that any little think just flicks the switch on her and she ends up bashing me. Its gotten to the point where if she is feeling moody ,I I try to cheer up by telling her shes the best and she makes me the happiest...and i cringe when i tell her because its not true. During every major date we had she always always always has to find a reason to not enjoy it. My first ever NBA game she got pissed off, first ever Easter, New Years, Wedding we went together she got pissed off, during Prom she got pissed off, During my bday she ate lunch with some other guy and wanted to talk to him because he was "an old friend" then she tells me to be nice to him and wants me to eat with him when they want to eat together. And whats funny is when i talk to another girl its so refreshing that i can talk to another girl and have her not get annoyed by anything i said because thats how my girlfriend is. I dont have to restrain myself, I can be me. And its like the otherday i was going to the restroom and she was hungry and wanted tacos. So i told her while im at the restroom that she can buy some. Nope instead she waited there and got "annoyed" because i told her why she didnt get some while i was in the restroom and her answer was "Its the way you say things" so i thought to myself if the way i talk, the way i am is annoying why do i want to marry someone like that. Even when i ask a favor its annoyingm its only when she feels like doing a favor that she wont get annoyed but thats every once in a while.I think about life with another woman. Someone who actually enjoys being with me at a date instead of b*tching because i said a joke or that something is wrong with her and she can he rude but i have no right to be mad or upset because she comes off b*tchy juat cuz shes "anxious, hungry, tired" thats everyday :(
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reader, Antun1294 +, writes (29 December 2017):
Honestly why b with someone who causes u this much stress.Is it worth it being with a chick who doesn't respect you much.Once she sees you doing well without her she'll realize what she needs to do for herself and the sake of the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2013): I'm not making an excuse for your gf's actions but if you really do love her and you want to make it work, you need to know what you are into. Education on the subject of Borderline Personality Disorder is something that you need to get. Trust me, once you read about the symptoms of BPD, you'll see that your gf is no different then millions of others out there with this disorder.It's hard and you have to have a STRONG self esteem to be with a BPD person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): You need to break up with this woman ASAP. She needs to learn the hard way that if she is going to constantly be a self centered entitled jerk she is not relationship-material. Because honestly she isn't. She will destroy every relationship she gets into. But some people don't learn except through consequences. Don't wait around for her to change as it wont happen during your relationship.
And yes a relationship where you are always walking on egg shells and cannot be yourself cos you have to say whatever it takes to avoid her going off, is worse than having no relationship at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): Why are you staying? Get out before this woman zaps you of all your self esteem and happiness!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (6 April 2013):
It doesn't have to be that way! You can be happy again! Simply dump negative Nancy and be single for awhile. Then when the right woman comes along see how it goes.
Staying with someone like herbs stupid, plain and simple. The longer you stay the more likely you are to want to jump off a cliff just to get away from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2013): She's a control freak. Please run away before it's too late!
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reader, Hnk  +, writes (5 April 2013):
 Hello there Sorry about your ordeal. I can understand your position as I had been in a similar situation myself. My girl used to be annoyed on smallest reason and she took me for granted. Everything must be according to HER WISHES or she be pissed! It also included things happening on streets, in politics or anywhere.Things I had no control over and if she needed an old friend to meet me, I had to act exactly as she wanted. If a girl gave me a look, she would blame me for dressing up and thus I was forced to be shaggy and dirty.I tried talking to HER loads and tried to get my message across that she needs to change. She never saw a problem and there were faults with me only in her opinion. Later however, she use to reason that she is short tempered and would be very caring. There's no doubt she loved me loads and would do more for me than anyone has. However, there came a time I thought I had enough. Fighting and arguing over small things every other day literary was too hard to bear and I was forced to breakup. According to my experience, the sooner the better because you will realize it soon you aren't meant for each other and regret the time you were together. It be hard to break up but it has to be done. A relationship in which you aren't happy isn't worth as there be people who will make you happy. My advice be, try talking to her and notice if she is changing. See the changes in next three months. Remember that once in a while we all are angry but if it's the same as before, move on ..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 April 2013):
 If you are thinking of life with another woman, I think it's time to make it so.
I would let her know that you are done catering to her whims and needs and whining is no longer allowed.
if she can't be pleasant then don't be around her.
but give her one chance... tell her that the rules are changing and from now on when she gets all pissy and moans... you are done for the day.
She whines, complains, picks a fight, whatever it is that is negative you say "that's it I'm done" and you leave.
either she'll complain more or leave you or she will stop doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2013): Agree with eyeswideopen, couldn't have said it better.
She can't be that good in the sack to compensate for all the negatives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2013): you guys are not made for each other. most important thing you said: And whats funny is when i talk to another girl its so refreshing that i can talk to another girl and have her not get annoyed by anything i said because thats how my girlfriend is. I dont have to restrain myself, I can be me.
that's what you need to look for in your next relationship. relationships take work but they shouldn't be that difficult.
make sure you take enough time (at least 6 months, in my opinion) to get over your girlfriend, and get in touch with yourself, before you date again :)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 April 2013):
 Sounds like a high-maintence drama queen, time to trade up my friend.
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