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writes:My girlfriend is not able to speak with me in a normal way for about 2 weeks. She has a cold distant attitude since then. I tried to be patient and told her she will have to tell me one day when she's ready to let me know what's going on with her.Today I received the following text message.'Please sorry me. I don't deserve you. I have a bad character.' Girls what do you really think when you say something like that?I realized she might doesn't dare to speak with me because she has regrets. Like she did something really bad.Could it mean she's with someone else?I consider it to be the most apparent reason for her recent behaviour and for that message.Or what else do you think could have happened?Thanks in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your comments at first.
Well I am/was in a long distance relationship.
So it is much more difficult to deal with problems.
Last night she wanted to speak with me.
The comeout was that in her point of view nothing had changed. She just is bored of sitting around at home and she wants to spend time with her friends. She denied that her attitude towards me had changed. She also said that she cannot give me what I want.
After speaking for 5 minutes she changed the subject and after another 5 minutes she said she was tired and wated to sleep. So again she was the one to finish the call.
She rather wanted me to explain what's going on instead of telling me.
In my point of view she is not open at all and I think she is hiding something.
Because a couple of weeks ago she told me she was open for a serious relationship. And because of her way of saying it and her attitude towards me it simply confused me.
Yes you are right when you say I cannot trust in her right now, although I really want to.
So I suggested to her that for now we should only focus on our friendship and she agreed. But I think I will let her live her life as it is, for a while and not contact her.
Actually the reason why I told her to concentrate on friendship was that I want to take a step back and to try to rebuild from there. In two months she will move over to my country. So if she found someone there she cannot be with him for long. My only hope is that she will not be in love, because then I can forget about everything.
Also in the meantime I will concentrate on my own life as well and not bother anymore. All that stress is not productive at all. And I even don't feel really hurt.
I have the special ability to repell negative emotion. Kind of an anti-emotion shield. So right now I'm concentrating on the good things in life and on good emotions.
But still I cannot stop myself of thinking about her. That is the most difficult thing for me right now. One sided love is nothing but painful. Damn love.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 This sounds like an awful situation. ou must be really hurting. It does sound liek she has been with someone else. Leave her for a while. Maybe it was just a fling. She is clearly feeling guilty about it. Because it is not a confirmed relationship that is why she can not tell you out right.If you feel she is messing you around leave her and find someone else who does not mess you around. Plus you do not really want to be going ot with someone you can not trust.Good luck.
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reader, Jess1ca_1988  +, writes (7 July 2009):
its not necessarily that she has cheated, maybe somebody said something to her that made her feel like she wasnt good enough for you.Or she might feel like she is good enough foryour family and they don't approve of her. the only thing to do is try to get her to open up and tell you what she is goin through, and remember to let her know how you feel and that you want things to work out between yallGood luck
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