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writes:25 days back, my ex-girlfriend took me back after 15 months break up with her. We were together for 2 years before I dumping her in first week of January 2010 . I left her telling her to try new options in my option ... I mean dating new girls. She was not happy with that decision as she hardly had done anything wrong to be dumped. In those in 15 months, I did date different girls but none of them turned out to be my type and I began missing her badly. After 5 days effort, My ex- took me back with one strange condition that everyday after coming back from work in the evening she, she would slap me on my face and it would keep on happening unless she feels her grudge and pain of 15 months is satisfied . I am living with her again and in her apartment. So it's been 25 slaps so far and she does it so powerfully that for the first time I cried last evening. Strange part, when she slaps me, afterwards she kisses me on the smacked spot of my face but still swelling is hard to go. My question to you guys is that how come a girl can be so brutal and loving at the same times? I know I hurt her quite badly but receiving slap everyday on my face knowing that it does hurt me like hell something she should change now? Any of you guys have faced or facing such strange situation? And how you guys coming with? There is any product which can keep the pain and swelling less ? And also not visible to her? I love her to death now and have learned my lesson . I would be obliged you people could put same light on my situation. Thank you all in advance!
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 end it. you dumped her, you only wanted her back because the other girls you tried did not match up. she took you back but seems like she took you back so she could get close enough to punish you. this is a mess and you are no longer right for each other. you need someone who you are sure you want and who doesn't hit you. she needs someone who she can trust not to dump her so he can go with other girls and someone who she does not WANT to be violent too. you are toxic for each other
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reader, Battista +, writes (7 August 2011):
I think this relationship is doomed now....she's unhappy over what you've done in the past, and is also physically abusing you which is not acceptable. You need to end the relationship and move on.
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 this is about the most ridiculous childish thing I have ever heard. Do not be surprised if she will never be satisfied or that there are other conditions that she will use as leverage on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): No matter how much you hurt her, she should not has no right to slap you, that is assault and quite abusive. I don't know of anything that can help with the swelling or the pain, but no matter what happened between you she should stop slapping you at all. She is using your guilt over hurting her to physically abuse you and that is not the kind of behavour that you should accept from anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): It's surprising that she took you back as she was clearly very hurt.
But she most definately should not be slapping you every day. If she can't get over the past, how can she start to build a future with you?
I think you need to leave this relationship now. I know you love her, but you should never have to feel this way or be so open to physical abuse! Who knows what she could be like when she realises she has power over you?!
If she truly loved you, she would not want to cause you such physical pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): Well....i mean you were a douchebag, to put it bluntly. Sure its not good to slap people till they cry or their face swells up, but you screwed up! You dumped her. You wanted to see other people when she was being a good girlfriend. And it took you 15 months to get your head out of the sand and realize your mistake!! Think about all the times she cried, she sat alone at home. Think about all the anger and hate that built up towards you. She was probably just about ready to move on when you came back. She probably thinks of all pain when you cross her mind and se probably builds up some anger coming home. And when she sees your face, she gets the release.
What you need to do is talk to her. Like really talk to her. Ask her how it made her feel, all those months, and you'll be surprised. Ask her how it make her feel when she slaps you. Then you need to tell her how it felt for you.
For the swelling, use ice.
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reader, VelvetUnderground +, writes (7 August 2011):
Firsly, as a girl, i would find it hard to forgive something like that and this is just her way of accepting you back and venting her feelings of anger towards you
BUT she can't continue doing this to you, its wrong and it needs to stop, you have to tell how much you love her and how sorry you and that slapping hurts you.
I'm afraid i dont know any products that would hide it but the slapping needs to stop therefore you shouldn't need any products
Hope this helped, good luck!!
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