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writes:I'm not sure where I'm going with this question but, I feel I need some insight into a matter which I have allowed myself to be bothered about. This has to do with my ex whom I have been apart from for shortly over a yr. now after 8 yrs. together. I also, apologize before hand for the length of this post.Shortly after ending it with me my ex became heavily involved with another person, moving in with her quickly, becoming engaged to her 3mths. into the relationship and even setting a wedding date for this Sept. During this past yr. I have in no way, contacted or spoken to him although, I have often been informed by his family and friends that things were not as great with them as he made it seem. He also, had been seen often driving by my home and whenever he would see me in passing he would practically break his neck trying to make eye contact with me or waving to me trying to get my attention. I have totaly ignored all of this. Not because I don't love him but, because he hurt me so badly.We had also, been engaged when he ended it. This past yr. has been very hard for me to move on from this devestation and I'm still not entirely there yet.I must now confess that I have deep down prayed for the demise of there relationship not, because I want him back but, because of the underhanded, sneaky way he went about the breakup. Rumor has it he had his eyes set on her while we were still together although, he denies it. Of course, I don't believe that. Well, now the day has come that I have prayed for- word has come my way that they have been broke up for 3 wks. I am not sure who did the breaking up but, my instincts tell me it was her. I know that this should not bother me but, when I heard they had broken up a big part of me was hoping he would come forth and tell me he was sorry for hurting me like he did and maybe realized that he had made a mistake. All of a sudden he is not driving by my house like he used to and it almost seems like he has dropped off the face of the earth. The only odd thing that has occured which also, has me baffled is that a gf of an employee of his has friended me on fb-we are really only acquaintances. I'm confused as to how come she never friended me when we were together or during this past yr.- why all of a sudden after my ex and his gf have broken up? Maybe I'm reading too much into that and I know you must think I am crazy for wanting some kind of response from him but, I can't help what I am feeling. Why constantly check up on me while he was with her and now nothing? Your insight would be appreciated.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (7 August 2011):
 I don't know about the FB thing..but in regards to your ex...well it's clear that when things were peachy in his relationship with the other woman, he didn't bother to try to see you. What he was focused on was the wedding...and married life. But when things got hard he wanted to be with you again. And that happens all too often with people. And I don't blame you for wanting an apology from him. But it's time for you to move on- completely from him.
He's probably at a low point right now thinking about his last failed relationship (her) and the one he let get away (you). So he may be emotional broken, so he may just choose to stay to himself for awhile until he gets himself together. And then who knows. He may want to talk and express how he felt, make an attempt to resolve things with you and get back together, or just move on completely.
Just my two cents. :^)
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