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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend has dropped off the map for a week now and i have sent online messages, texts, and left voice messages, but she did not respond to any of them what so ever.I did however get a response from her cousin that said that she had left the phone at her friends house, which is ok, people forget things. The problem is that even if she left it i figured how much she uses and loves her phone she would of gone and got it by now or at least tried to contact me online somehow.The only thing i know is her cousin told me that she ran off with a friend,who was a guy which isn't unusual with her because before and after i met her all of her friends but 2 are guys. The odd part is the name she gave didn't ring any bells, i am bad with names so this isn't surprising. I also wonder how her phone when i called yesterday after waiting 3 days is still working, the best phones on the market last 3 to 4 days on standby and its has been apparently been sitting there for a week, if she left her charger it makes sense but she normally unless she plans to go somewhere long term doesn't bring her phone charger. I normally don't worry but with a week gone by with the last time i heard of or from her being that she took off from babysitting her cousins kids with another man and her aunt hasn't heard from her or seen her since as far as i know, but the cousin could be covering for her for some reason. She said she would never cheat and i trust her but i haven't slept well at all for the last week last night i got maybe 3 hours of actual sleep if i was lucky and i felt exhausted still, half this week i haven't slept at all, and im starting to get kind of aggravated. I feel like she should of at least used her friends internet if she stayed at one of their houses or left me a text message to inform me of what was going on before she left her cousins.Especially since she took off after she got fired because i called her at work and she didn't have it on silent and she was aggravated and needed to look for a job and all i really got to say was i was sorry and felt horrible and that was about it. Haven t talked to her since because of all this and this rest heavy on my mind. So she left me for a week to stew in the muck of making me worry if she is ok,cheating,dead somewhere, dumping me, if she got a job, and my own guilt for having part in her getting fired. So to say the least after going to collage everyday on 3 hours of sleep or less and hoping for a call that hasn't come yet every night until i go to sleep. To say the least im a little angry.....I don't know what i should do or how long i should wait before i just say to hell with it and move on, i don't want to but im also not going to play the game of not communicating what is going on and being worried the whole time. She is the closest thing to what i want out of a gf i have ever found but im not about to let a vicious cycle form where i end up dealing with stuff like this all the time. So aunts how long should i wait before assuming the worst and moving on, and what do you guys think is going on, and should I be worried as much as i am and as aggravated as I am from this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): I'm sorry dude it sounds bad but 2 make u feel better my girlfriends hasn't text or called me in 3 weeks. And idk what happened to
Her. Try leaving a email text or voice message explaining how u feel tell her u wanna help tell her ur worried. Tell her what she wants to hear... No luck with me but mabey she is just stressed I mean she just lost her job. If u don't get something back from her ur gonna have to let it go it's gonna hurt but u gotta and I think I do to.
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reader, Loudmouth +, writes (9 September 2009):
Usually when a girl is not interested in a guy anymore, and doesnt want to hurt him, she usually just stops all communication to get her message across. I think that the recent events in your relationship have caused her to want a break up, but she doesn't want to see you hurt. Give up. You seem like a great sensitive guy and you deserve better. Move on. Even if she DOES come back, the fact that you have moved on will make her angry and she will want you more.
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (9 September 2009):
I used to have the same problem with my guy - one minute he would phone all the time - and the next I would be waiting 2 weeks!! - The longest I had to wait was 3 weeks - but usually there is some underlying reason!!
The question you need to ask yourself is - Is she usually unreliable at keeping in touch? - If yes (like my guy) then I wouldn't worry too much as she probably will be back soon
if no - then you need to look for other reasons why she has suddenly "lost touch" - it may not be as bad as you think!
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (9 September 2009):
I'd say if she dsnt contact u in the nxt five minutes find urself a new woman
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