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writes: Is anybody familiar with divorce process in Canada? I have made my decision ,to leave my husband, but I don't know where to start. What happens if I move out before the divorce papers? I'm not sure I can deal with him, he is not going to cooperate,and I need space to take care of myself right now.What happens to financial part, if I leave without signing papers? I know I have to see a lawyer ,but I thought there is some good advice ,before I make my move. Right now there is no chance I will change this idea, but I don't know where to start ,I'm way too overwhelmed in the moment. Please help ,any advice would help a lot. We have property with equity ,but mortgage too.I guess, it takes time to sell. etc. What is the least stupid way to deal with this? No young kids, they are all over 18.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 September 2009):
Least stupid way is to get a lawyer, now. Don't wait. Also make sure you have copies of ALL papers of everything you own, house, cars, bank statements, YOUR birth certificates, those of your grown children ( if you still have any of those).
It seems like you are going to have to suck it up and stay, unless he is being abusive or violent. Pretend he is just a really bad room mate.
I'm sorry you have to go through this.
Good luck,
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): I believe that all provinces have no-fault divorce laws. Any property you brought into the marriage (that you can verify) is yours 100%, as is the case for your husband. Anything else is community property, and will be divided down the middle. As long as you're not wanting to try to get maintenance payments, it should be pretty straightforward.
But yes, you definitely need to talk to a skilled divorce lawyer, and preferably *before* you leave, just in case your walking out somehow affects the settlement. I don't know if they have Fairway Divorce where you live -- looks like they're only in five cities. Talk to them anyway, though -- I know waaay too many couples who had all their assets frittered away by their divorce lawyers doing the pit-bull thing.
Sorry you find yourself in this situation. Best of luck.
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