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writes:Okay so I need advice on what is best to do - my girlfriend has gone to florida on holiday with her friends and family for two weeks, she's already been there a week so next week she will be back, hopefully. But the point is whilst she has been out there she's been so cold but before she went we were saying how we are both not going to cope without eachother and we love eachother but now it seems I'm just an option to her, she barely speaks to me or anything. A few days before he left, I made the mistake of going to work instead of seeing her, but I have to work, I sent her a text before she left saying ' I wish you were in my arms right now:( xxx' and she blanked it, no idea why - maybe cause I went to work? And also a few weeks ago when we were loved up, I was quite angry an she text me saying ' I love you, goodnight xxxx' I just replied 'ok, goodnight x' then we had a petty argument but the next day I went to see her face to face and we sorted it but that text is the last time she has said 'i love you' without me saying it then she replying as ' I love you too' . Another issue is one minute she'll facebook inbox me whilst she's in Florida and I'll say to her 'hope you're enjoying yourself, you deserve to be:) xxxxxxx' she'll reply as ' enjoying myself? Ish. Worrying about things too much:/' I asked her what thing she replys ' people keep talking about death, no big deal:)' but then one of her friends comments on her wall and says ' having a good time:)?' she'll reply as 'YESS;D!' this is after she has told me that she's worried, merr. Also one last thing is I try to talk to her when I need her and she just blanks it and just goes on about herself, I'm beginning to think she don't love me, care about me or anything now but if I approach her about it like vie done before she'll end up saying he does love me and is scared she'll loose me but how do I really know what she feels? I have no idea what to do now, I love her to bits but I'm unsure, I would appreciate help on this thanks in regard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): i just went through the same thing. My bf completely freaked while i was on holiday with my family. Im on holiday with my family who does not see me but once every 5 years due to the distance. I seemed cold but thats not how i felt. I was busy and wanted to be with my family. anyhow he ended up dumping me and said i was treating him badly etc. which was not the case btw. The last thing I really cared about was HIM. It was my family not his. Try to look at it from her veiw. I know you don't mean to be selfish right now .. cause you love her and miss her. But, if you don't stop you will talk your self right out of a good thing. trust me on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): Just be patient and see for yourself when she gets back.
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reader, mr toyboy  +, writes (1 September 2010):
Dont worry, am in the same situation, my girlfriend went home to her family last week and she went cold as well, i spoke to her and she explained that she just wanted to hang out with her family and friends and generally have fun because when shes here, its all work, work, work, so i just cut her some slacks to have fun and am expecting her back tomorrow and everything will be just fine when she comes back, so dont worry, when she comes back, her attention will be focused back on you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 September 2010):
Just relax. She's on holiday, so her contact will only be limited anyway. You're making too much fuss over too little. When she comes back, just work at it. But she's on holiday at the moment, so she's just relaxing and such. And she told you the truth about worrying. She probably is. She was more open with you than her friend, so she obviously trusts you. Just relax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): She probably only told you that she had problems because she felt closer to you to tell you that in inbox. While when someone post it on her wall she doesn't want to show everyone she's not having much of a great time. She's probably just occupied right now and busy.
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