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writes:I know how this is going to sound but it's the truth, I swear to God. I've been with my girlfriend for three years now. She's the woman of my dreams to say the least and our sex life has always been fantastic. However, I've discovered a side of her that I never knew existed. Now, the thing is my penis is rather above average in size and length. It measures at just over ten and a half inches and is quite thick. My girlfriend has never had a problem with this and really enjoys having sex with me. Recently I borrowed my girlfriend's mobile phone to make a call. During the call the phone received a text message. When I ended the call I accidently opened the text message. It was from one of her close friends and she said something along the lines of, "Wow! It's very big. Are you sure he'll want to have sex with me? I can't wait and I know the others can't!" At first I didn't quite understand what was going on so I checked her sent messages folder and there it was, a picture message containing a photo of my erect penis. We've taken alot of pictures of one another before but on further investigation it appears that she's sent it to about three of her friends in total. All the replies are roughly saying the same thing! I confronted my girlfriend about this straight away and she said that I'd ruined the surprise! I asked her what she meant. The first thing she told me was that she won't do anal sex, which of course I know, but these three friends of hers will. So, girlfriend has decided that to keep me happy she has arranged for these friends of hers to have sex with me. She even said that she had planned for us to all have sex together this weekend. Well, they won't be having sex together, they'll just be taking turns with me! Quite frankly I don't know what to say. It's all been arranged and I don't appear to have a say in any of it. At first I thought it was a wind-up but now her friends are sending me explicit photos of themselves to my phone and telling me that they can't wait for this weekend. My girlfriend also says that it's going to be a massive turn on for her to see these women taking turns with me. I don't know what to do. Where has this side of my girlfriend come from? Should I go along with it or run a mile?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): hey man if i was you i would go for it because there girls and if your girlfriend says its okay to do it then go ahead and do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): Funny, I thought "size doesn't matter."
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reader, DLover  +, writes (26 August 2009):
Don't run ! She loves you to the point that she will do anything to make you happy, is that a crime ?
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reader, busy04  +, writes (26 August 2009):
 Your girlfriend was way out of line to set this up & to send pictures to these women.
You need to tell her how you feel about the whole thing, if you don't want to do it, then don't do it! She had no right to involve you in something like this without your consent...she's sick in the head & needs help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): hum, the "why" would she do this out of the blue concerns me. I think maybe she had a relationship with another dude(s), and is trying to make it OK by letting you have a relationship with other women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): If you're not 100% comfortable with this, then don't do it. Most people would be appalled if this question was sent in by a female, and her boyfriend had arranged for her to have sex with his friends. So the fact that you're a guy makes no difference as far as I am concerned. Don't feel pressured into doing anything you are not happy with.
I think it might be worth having a talk with your girlfriend, and asking her where this has come from. Why has she suddenly got this idea in her head? Why did she go and plan it all? Is she really comfortable at the thought of you having sex with her friends?
Even if she seems fine about it, I doubt she would be if it actually happened. She may just see it as a joke right now, a bit of fun. But as a lot of people find out in these situations, the reality can be very different. How would you feel if the tables were turned?
This does sound very odd to me for her to suddenly plan all of this. I guess it also concerns me that she is sending privavte photos to her friends. I don't know how you feel about that, whether it concerns you or not. But for me, that would be a massive breach of trust.
I think you really need to have an honest talk to her about all of this, and find out what is going on. And once again, don't be pressured into anything you are not happy with. x
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (26 August 2009):
 Just a heads up, this multiple partner thing usually ruins relationships. Couples aren't usually up front with how they really feel about this idea, leaving one kind of iffy about the entire situation, but they go along with it anyway. And then jealousy or detachment from one's partner, or even STD's come into play. You explained the story, but you never said how you feel about it. Are you entirely comfortable with the idea? I mean there are chances that you are going to see these friends after this 'sex' weekend, so how awkward is that going to be? Are you going to be able to stay loyal to your girlfriend after? Should you? I mean she is giving you a free ticket to have sex with them now, but does it apply later? What if they want to continue having sex with you? Will that ruin the friendship between these girls and your girlfriend? Will it make it awkward for them? What if you start liking one of these girls a bit more than attraction? It may sound like a great deal for the both of you now, but there are literally hundreds of repercussions after that could happen. It'd be insane if this entire situation was a test from your girlfriend to see if you would say no to having sex with other women, even if the situation is given to you by her. I also think that the entire idea of sending naked pictures of you without telling is a bit of a violation of privacy. But that's just me. Just know that this could really turn around to bite you in the ass. I mean it is a good fantasy, but that's usually why fantasies stay fantasies. That way there are no repercussions after. And people are people, they all have emotions, so this could really screw with someone's. Either way, you have to weigh everything out, and don't feel like you 'have' to do this. Maybe it would be best just to say no, and if she doesn't respect that, then you can definitely tell this entire situation is for her. Not for you. Good luck, and be honest with yourself. Three years is a long time to perhaps mess up.
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