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writes:So me and my gf have been together for almost 2 years now. We were having problems a while back because I wasn't doing anything with my life and I wasn't making any effort in attempting to fix it. We broke up for a good 2 months or so and just recently got back together. I used to throw events(concerts) and I lost over $100,000 and I haven't done anything in over a year so that's the reason we broke up. Just recently I am opening a club, starting school, getting back into shape, started my own online radio show and starting up a new production company. She says she still has doubts......I have a fucked up life and things tend to bring me down but all factors have been non-existant for over 5 months now. She said she doesn't know if she's in love with me anymore and I honestly don't know how to deal with this. Do you have any suggestions?
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (29 August 2009):
 Try and put things into her view and perspective that first attracted you to her. In other words, if there was something special about you that she fell in love with, then that is what will attract her to you again.
When you suffer personal failures, not related to the relationship, that creates a "negative energy" so to speak.
And this negative energy tends to push people away from you instead of pull them back to you.
I think the fact that you're putting your life back on track will also help her see that you are trying hard to be a better man for her.
If the efforts are impressive to her, she will see that you aren't slacking or giving up.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): my advice is to give her space. get your life sorted out and then try to get back together. you need your life to be back on track before you can even handle a girlfriend. hope this helps and good luck x
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