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writes:I need desprate help I love my girlfriend to bits but she is always thinking I am cheating on her when I am not She constantly thinks she hears and sees proof when I am not doing anything For example I'm on the phone with her all day everyday my brother says something that is like "hey draw this picture for me" and she hears "hey look at this picture of this girl that you are talking to"Also my sister loves this attention and is constantly saying that I am cheating on my girlfriend when I'm on the phone because my sister knows it will get her mad at me. Yet my girlfriend believes that she is telling the truth. I swear to god I love her and only her. She says she is constantly catching me checking out other girls when I'm not at all I try my best not to look at other girls by constantly staring at the ground. But I only check out my own girlfriend I ogle her and not no one else at all yet she believes that because of that I want someone else because apparently everyone she talks to knows me and are always saying I'm doing something bad and have picture proof my certain texts or things like that when I never did anything in my life and she would rather believe a total stranger and she has before who's only intent was to take advantage of her and I warned her but she was still mad at me because she thought I was cheating I have no idea what to do Please anyone help please I know she loves me too but it's her mistrust that is hurting our relationship How can I show her I'm not lying at all?Please help how can I rebuild our trust
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reader, Emily20  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 My dear she loves Don't abandon her like that,just sit her down talk to her make her see the demage insecurities can cause to your relationship,talk to her,she may be doing that,because of her past,just tell her to talk to you,tell her how mush you love her,and tell her you will love to grow old with her,if only she can trust you,after that if she continues then take your decision.goodluck
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 January 2012):
 Sadly this is not anything you can fix. Her insecurity is causing this problem.
I personally know my man looks at other women.. but as he's said "he comes home to me" and that's fine.
I think that you need to tell her point blank that she needs to get some therapy to work on her self-esteem and insecurity and that you will try to stay with her as long as you can but that her insecurity is making it so difficult that you are not sure how much longer you can cope.
She needs to be responsible for her behavior and not blame you for this. But sadly she will.
YOU cannot rebuild trust that is gone for no reason. ONLY she can. And if she can't change you may have to end the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2012): GF insecurity is so out of hand that its extremely unhealthy to the point she has dellusions?
I say end it as there is apparently nothing you can do. She doesn't even trust you and ALL loving, healthy, relationship are built on trust.
She needs counselling and will not fully recover from her obsessive/abusive nature until then.
Give yourself the gift of peace, happiness this New Year.
Eventually find someone who will trust in you and be what you need and you for her.
Hang In There!
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reader, BEAUTIFULMIND2B +, writes (4 January 2012):
First off i would like to say your girlfriend has an insecurity problem for one and two,if she's always telling you that your cheating it's because she's doing the cheating. nine times out of ten if someone is accusing you cheating you need to look at that person. she is trying to keep the spotlight on you because she feels guilty for what she is doing.if she doesn't have proof it's more an insecurity complex everybody has some kind of insecurities somewhere in their lives.
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