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writes:My girlfriend is always telling about how she thinks other people are hot. ALWAYS. When we watch t.v. or a movie together she always finds someone who she thinks is hot and tells me, or when i mention someone we're friends with she tells me how hot he is. I dont know what to do, this really pisses me off and she knows it but when i say anything about it she gets mad. For some reason I just love this girl... alot but sometimes she is the biggest bitch ever. She just says shit about how she wishes i looked as good as soo and so and one time while we were having sex she said I wasnt big enough. Im not small or anything im like 5.5 - 6 inches but i guess its not good enough for her. When she has to stay home I always keep her company but the one and only night I was grounded she first said she would hangout at my house with me but then ditched me to go hang with a bunch a guys she thinks are reaally hot. Should I end this even though some fucked up part of me loves her ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): Oh cowgirl, I knew you couldn't stay away from this. ;) She just wants to make sure that I'm getting the proper nutrition. Think how healthy I'd be if they were DD. It's a tough life, but she suffers through it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): Now Toomuchtrouble you know Mrs anonymous was only trying to help you out. Me and you both know your wife thinks it's pathetic that she's had to spend most of your married life breastfeeding you because your not yet weaned of the breast... Poor wife, a womans work is never done.. She's been very good to you, don't forget to thank her for sharing her boobs with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): From the anon female who is so insecure that she can't even use her anonymous DC name:
"Troubletoomuch, you wish your wifes boobs were bigger? why? they are only lumps of fat after all. Now if she wished your dick was bigger, it would matter. You men are so pathetic sometimes. Boobs are for feeding babies not for your entertainment. Besides what is the difference between big and small. Incidentally I am a 30C but my husband likes them smaller, do I care?"
Read more carefully what I have written here and elsewhere. You must be a real joy to be with. I feel sorry for your husband and feel so fortunate to have the wife that I have insteasd of someone like you. And I'm restraining myself to tell you what I really think. My wife happens to like me fondling her boobs. I wouldn't do it if she didn't like it. She's not as narrow minded as you. Besides, I also said that she wishes that her's were a little bigger. Learn to read or at least pay attention to what others say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): Let me give you the short answer first: DUMP HER.
I see no problem with either one of you thinking and even saying that you find someone of the opposite sex hot, but only after you are very comfortable with each other and know that you both like each other just as you are. My wife and I do that. OK, I look at other women more than she looks at other men, but we both do it. We both make comments about other people being hot or a turn-on.
The thing is that I have never told my wife that I wish she was better looking and she has never told me that either. We are happy with each other. OK, she wishes that her boobs were a little bigger and I wouldn't mind that either and she knows it, but she also knows that I find her very hot and are happy with her.
Telling you that you aren't big enough is just unforgivable. You are a little bigger than average and the vast majority of women would be happy with what you have. My wife once dated a guy for about 8 months who was an inch or 2 shorter than you and she never complained to him about his size. Any woman who tells a guy that his dick is too short or any man who tells a woman that her boobs aren't big enough doesn't deserve a partner.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 She told you that you weren't big enough? OUCH. That's harsh.
Her words and actions are not those of a loving partner. She should be encouraging and supporting you, not degrading you with comments about your looks or the size of your manhood. What kind of a thing is that to say to someone you allegedly love?
Have you taken this up with her? Sat her down and explained to her what you have told us here? If not, it might be a good first step to take.
If you /have/ let her know that this upsets you, and she continues, then she obviously has no respect for you. As much as you love her, it may be best to call it off and find a girl who'll treat you better.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (19 August 2008):
 I'm so sorry you're with such a bitch of a girl.
Ok, I was going to tell you to be appreciative of her being open to you in this matter, but my opinion totally changed when you mentioned she tells you you're not good enough and that she wishes you were. Now, that's just being insensitive.
You know the answer of this. You have to dump her. You may love her, but you have to realize that she doesn't love you, and if she does, she has a fucked up way on showing it.
She's not appreciative of you. She insults you and tries to put you down by saying that you're not good enough for her. She even goes as far as insulting your libido and your instrument, when you're in the act. I'm surprised you didn't stop and left the room!! But the worst it seems that she preferred to hang out with some guys than you. How despiteful of her.
So I will tell you what most people will probably tell you: You deserve better and you have to dump her. She sounds to me that she will eventually learn how to manipulate you and you will be stuck and a one-sided relationship that will be hard to get out off. Do it now before it's too late.
To get her out of your head, try to do some activities or hobbies. Or you could try to hang out with friends.
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