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writes:I've been dating this girl since August, but recently she built up the courage to call me and tell me how back in November, she got very drunk and accidentally slept with this guy. She was all in tears about it, and she truly seemed like she was sorry for doing it. She also told me how she just found out that the guy apparently gave her an STD. Of course, I am a little mad, but I actually still love her, and from the sound of it, she still truly loves me.She was really drunk when it happened, I feel like if she wasn't so drunk, this would have never happened. In the past, She told me how other guys try to hit on her when I'm not around, and she's like "No Thank You".Is there some advice out there on what I can do to get through this? I still love her, but unfortunately, she's at school right now, and I can't go see her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): So as not to repeat what has already been said, I completely agree with The Dude and Flynn24. If you do decide to stay with her then you have to ask yourself this:
Do you think that she will never get as drunk again? If not, then you cannot be confident that she will not again "accidentally" sleep with someone. Although I do think that it is likely that she would not do that when sober, I would not be confident that she would not do it again if drunk. My wife once slept with a guy and used the excuse that she was drunk, but it was months before we ever dated and she did not have a committed boyfriend. That is a lot different then doing it when you are dating someone, and even then it is simply an excuse. There is no cheating before, but it is after.
If you do decide to stay with her then this is her only chance. Take Flynn's advice on this. This is like the saying: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. It's the same in this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): If she has cheated only this once and apologises... accept it. Forgive her and move forward.
But if she does it again, kick her to the kerb.
If you love someone, then that love dictates it be given a second chance. And ONLY a second chance. No thirds, or fourths.
Flynn 24
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (27 January 2010):
 look heres what you do, dont call her
dont answer her calls
stop saying your in love
ask another girl out
in fact ask several girls out your young live it up a little
dont tell your ex gf you love her
make your current cheating gf your ex gf
remember this if she snot having sex with you but she has sex with other guys then shes not really your gf your just her sugardady
dont burn the bridge down completly just cut a few ropes meaning make sure when your done with this girl your still friends with bennefits.
unless you dont want to be but hey when she comes home from school fwb will be sounding pretty good just tell your new gf your sick and cant come see her because you have swine flu.
thats about it you really need to drop this girl she sup there at sleeping with all those college boys not thinking about you
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reader, iamaphony +, writes (27 January 2010):
"I got very drunk and accidentally the whole thing", is a classic.
Play it cool, and deal with it how you want. Calm, cool, and confident will ALWAYS pays off in the end.
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