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writes:My girlfriend said she wants to take a shower with me and lay on my bed naked and get some whip cream and she says that i can do whatever i want to her and she will do whatever i want her to do to me but she says she dont want sex. I kind really dont want sex right now but i think she wants it but idk and i dont mind if she wants it i will go as far as the girl wants as long as i love her alot. idk if she wants it or not can you please tell me if she does. Reply to this Question
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reader, kevswife04 +, writes (23 December 2007):
This might just be the parent in me, but you are way to young to even think about being sexually active. If you and your girfiend really love each other and this is something that you both want than i don't see a problem. What it sounds like to me is that this is puppy love and neither one of you want to have sex or understand all the emotions that go along with being sexually active. I highly doubt that at your age that you will be with her forever. Don't do something that you both may regret for the rest of your lives. If you decide to do it please be smart about it.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (19 December 2007):
 I'm saying anything legal that you both feel comfortable doing is ok :o)
I was 15 when I lost my virginity...I have to admit I REALLY regret not waiting, I wish I could have waited for someone special, but at the time I had a best friend who was what you would call easy, and I succommed to peer pressure.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Well, I guess if there's ever a time where you do feel uncomfortable doing anything, you just have to say so. But if you feel comfortable doing what you're doing so far, then there's no real problem. Just make sure that you aren't doing anything you don't feel ready for, and you should be fine.
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reader, IDK +, writes (18 December 2007):
IDK is verified as being by the original poster of the question So you starfairy is saying its ok to do all that. And Andy00 I know I kinda do believe her but she is wanting to have phone sex and internet sex all the time and she said if we do do anything that if she gets my "white stuff is what she says" in her mouth she will not do it again and be kinda mad but idk. And I dont feel pressured at all I want to do some foreplay with her and I dont know if I want to have sex with her but I have never ever felt this way about a girl before My past G\Fs I never even though anything like that about them but her she is different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): Following on from starfairy's answer, last paragraph. A few quartered strawberries placed on top of the whipped cream in strategic places and then eaten is good. (:o)
If she says she doesn't want sex, then you have to take that as exactly what she means. There's this rumour going round that when a girl says 'no' she really means 'yes'. Not true. It's everyones' right to say no to sex. She's said no, so that's that.
Phil
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (18 December 2007):
Hmmm. You are a little young to be getting involved in acts like that... Granted, I was 16, nearly 17 when doing things like that, but the difference is I knew I was ready. You have made it clear that you don't think you're ready, in which case you're probably are not ready yet.
You say she has told you that she doesn't want sex, so perhaps she knows she isn't ready yet, and instead wants to experiment different acts of foreplay with you. However, you also make it sound like you don't believe her when she says she doesn't want Sex. What you must remember is, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Furthermore, you shouldn't allow anybody to pressure you into doing what you don't want to do.
I think she is feeling just a little bit playful at this time, and if you are ready for foreplay, it's something that you should enjoy doing. If you decide that it is too much, try and explain how you feel, and how you don't think you are ready just yet.
I don't think you have to much to worry about. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, so try and remember that if you ever find yourself in a spot where you feel pressured.
Good luck!
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reader, starfairy +, writes (18 December 2007):
Just keep in mind you are underage :o)
It's ok to play, and explore each other. Try having a nice bubble bath together, light some candles, scrub eachothers' backs with a loofah, etc.
If you don't feel ready for sex, perhaps tell her you would like to hold off on the whipped cream thing. Tell her you want it to be special, and you also want to be old enough.
Maybe when you're both 16, you could plan a greta night for her. Candles, music, rose petals on the bed, whipped cream, you could push the boat out and go for chocolate sauce, ice cream, ice cubes, the list could go on :o)
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