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female
age
36-40,
*upidbreaker
writes:My Gf still have feelings for her ex. we where fighting at some point and she cheated with her ex and then went back with me without telling me she had cheated then went back to the ex and broke up with me asking me to hold on and wait for her..I moved on and she ran after me while keeping her ex as her lover and when I accept to take her back and dump the person I had moved on with she promised me to not talk to her ex again if in return I would not talk to mine and all this time kept her ex as her lover until I came back in town and she had to brake up wit the other one..she chose me but was still in love with her ex as well...a few months went by and again i had to be away on business and when I came back her ex had moved to the house next door by pure coincidence...my gf agreed to move to another house with me and the day that I had the keys I found her having a beer with her ex behind my back...now she promised not to talk to the ex but is not moving into the new house with me because she says that I have mentioned her past too much creating troubles. And now I am hurt seeing her ex everyday when I stay over and also knowing that they still talk behind my back and both think that I am controling and jealous. When the truth is I would never put her throught this because I love her too much. I have not spoke to my ex as promised and was expecting both of us to completely move on.Do you think that she would have moved with me if I had not recently found out many lies about them and confronted her?. Do you think that we would of had a better chance at focusing on the positive or is she playing me again?. How long should I take this? and wait for her to move into the new house?.I am sick and tired we never lived apart and I hate sleeping over her place and knowing that the ex is next door sharing the same driveway and I am at work during the day.And my gf always closes the computer screen when I get into the room. and she no longer has detail phone bill since I confront her with her 10 calls a day to her ex at some point in the past ..especialy when I am out of town when I am in town they only speak once a day..and the longest they have been without speaking was a month and that is when the ex made the plans to move next door. and to make things even more painfull the house she is living in is owned by the ex as well as where the ex moved next door..am I being overjealous? or is my gf very insensitive?.At the moment I have a big empty house that costs me most of my salary to pay while I am waiting for her and still she expects me to help her pay all her utlity bills at her house because I stay over and shower. Since the ex is next door I feel very insecure and to make matters worste because of my complaining about it my gf does not feel like having sex with me. Wich in turn doubles my insecurities.I have a feeling that my gf will want to have sex with me just before I go away out of town for work just to keep me hanging and to make sure I come back...but that is not what I want I want her to be a family with me again and I want to build a loving life. I don't want drama. How can I fixt this?
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 No, you should dump her. She is likely still cheating on you with him. Why you took her back in the first place is beyond me. Leave her and find someone who makes you happy. She doesn't diserve to be with you.
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