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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi me and my gf are planning on having sex tomorrow night for the first time. We are both virgins and old enough. We have been great friends most of our school lives so we know each other well. The thing is shes terrified of the pain and is afraid she won't be able to relax. I've told her she's probably not ready then but she says she is shes just really scared,she knows we can stop at any time. She says shes really excited because of how good it will eventually feel and she really wants me to take her virginity and wants it to be really special.Shes always been a shy person and although i have seen her naked before except she didn't know i was there and i have seen her partly dressed(just a towel on etc) she feels embarrassed being fully naked with me as she says she doesn't like her body because she hasn't got big boobs. Now she hasn't got the biggest but i lke her the way she is and shes got the world most gorgous body ever and i have told her not that it makes a difference.I know shes scared and i can understand why i am to except i'm not the one that it will hurt. What can i do to help her to relax and not tense up. What sort of things can we do for foreplay?(we arent gonna start using toys as shes not that type of person and neither am i)Is there anything else beides foreplay that will help her relax and also how long should our frist time last?I really want to make this a great night hope you can answer my questions. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): I agree with the people who gave you advice but it's a little late now, Can you post an answer to your own question so you can tell us how it went? I'm about the same age as you and I'm also a virgin. Your girlfriend sounds very similar to me as I am scared of having sex too so if you could let me know how it went and anything that you would change it would be really useful!!!! xxx
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reader, love-him +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Hey babe u just need to keep tellin her u love her.. maybe ring her up unexpectadly, and tell her shes gorgeous.. and when you see her etc.. girls like that.. well most of them :) about the sex bit, you need to make sure the moment is right, you need her to be relaxed, to minimize the pain, and maybe use foreplay before hand, and make her lubricated.. which will hurt less. I hope i helped, and have a gud time =) Mail me if u want to talk x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): you need to show how much you care the first time is very important make sure you both r ready, make it special for her keep her relaxed take it slow dont rush her into doing it, all girl think their is something ugly about them self make sure she know you love just the way she is.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Hi there honey,
Well what a sweetie you are to be worrying about her feelings your a great guy....
Plenty of foreplay is great honey, play some soft music in the back ground to relax you both and stop worrying the pair of you its the first time for both of you and thats sweet, experiment with each other and tell each other what feels good talk to her honey ask her if its good if she says yes then bingo if not keep trying...
It probably will hurt her but be gentle thats the only advice I can give but I am sure you will be babes...
She is bound to be embarrassed of her body in front of you none of us girlies are 100% happy with what god blessed us you tell her she is beautiful and you love every part of her ,make her feel special wisper in her ears how much you love her this will help her relax more and good luck, hope it goes well for you both
Love Donna
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