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writes:quick queston for all the girls out there: my gf thinks its weird that ill always want to randomly cop a feel on her breasts here and there. say for example we're laying down watching t.v and i notice shes not wearing a bra under her shirt, ill put my hand up her shirt and take a random feel or rub n massage her belly then go up n touch her for a lil. sometimes its cause im in the mood but other times i think it just makes me feel good to know that shes mine and that im the only guy who can do that. 9 out of 10times shellgrab my hand or do anything to keep me from touching them. she lets me during sex but if we're not doing that shell fight to the death to stop me saying its weird and random. basically i wanna know if other girls think its weird and would they allow it? thanks
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reader, hindsight +, writes (21 July 2010):
My wife would think something was wrong if I WASN'T trying to grab her breasts all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): i love it when my BF grabs my boobs, cuz even though they arent to big, it makes me feel like no matter what, he loves them, and he loves my body.
and i will sometime wear a small shrit, that he can get aroused by looking at my boobs, and he can just easily go in and grab them.
he also likes to pull my shirt and bra down, so he can go in and suck on my boob, which feels really good.
yet, because all girls are differnt, and they may not like being 'used', even though thats not how i see it
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): I think you need to seriously consider why she would feel uncomfortable. If you are only attempting to feel her breasts when there is no one else around, the problem could be that she thinks most of the relationship is physical, instead of an emotional connection. Perhaps next time, say "you are so beautiful to me" when you notice her being sexy without trying. Women love to know that you notice them, and this would fill that potential void of emotional connection. But overall, just talk to her reasonably, and respect her wishes.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 February 2009):
 I guess it depends. I like it personally. You need to talk to you. Tell her why you like to do it and LISTEN to her reason for why she doesn't.
Then respect her.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (20 February 2009):
 my boyfriend would tape his hands to my breasts if he could!! personally i love it, it makes me happy to know that he finds me that sexy!! how long have you guys been going out? if you've only been together a short while, than lay off a bit, she mite not feel 100% comfortable with it yet. but its defo not weird. not at all.
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reader, aman +, writes (20 February 2009):
My GF doesn't have a problem with it. I've done it in the past randomly while cuddling, and I've also expressed how much I like doing it. "They just feel nice." haha.
Every girl is different, though. Try explaining to her that you like they way they feel and you aren't trying to initiate anything. Ask if it would be okay if you asked before doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): I love it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): I am not sure if it is weird for all females and I can only speak for myself, this does not mean that your girlfriend does not have her own reasons that are totally different then mine. I was molested when I was a child. I enjoy non-sexual affection when I am relaxing with my husband because it makes me feel respected and loved. When we are having sex, I perfer him to start out with non-sexual affection and slowly move into the the sexual affection. This is just what makes me feel safe and loved. He too use to try to just go in for the "kill" or often, probably much like you said, like to touch me where ever he wanted just because he could. It only made me think of being molested and I felt violated, but never told him this because I feared he would think I was calling him a pervert or rejecting him. I had the same reaction that your girlfriend has with you for a long time in the hopes that he would just figure out it was something that I did not like and stop doing it. When he didn't get the hint, I started telling him, I don't like the feeling of being grabbed at. He respected my feelings and stopped, but I never told him why and he probably still wonders the same thing as you do. Again, I am not saying that this means your girlfriend was molested too, I am just saying that sometimes if somebody is trying to give you a hint or kindly tell you that there is something that makes them uncomfortable, you should probably assume that it is equally uncomfortable for them to talk about and just respect their feelings. If you still feel the need to know her reasoning, for feeling this way then you should just say " I can tell you don't like me doing that to you so I will stop, if there is a specific reason why you don't like this, I want you to know that I would only find your trust in me to be flattering, but if you would rather not talk about it or if there is no specific reason other then you just don't like being touched that way, it is ok to tell me that too." If I felt that my husband was interested in knowing, but could be assured he wouldn't get offended, I probably would have told him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): Maybe she feels a bit used, like a sexual object when you keep doing that? she said stop, so you should back off. It;s your g/f wish, other women on here have got no right telling you it's normal because it's your g/f right as it's her body of what she feels nice with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): yes its weird - do it less and like great works of art. e.g just watch them.
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): No I don't feel that way at all. I like it when my boyfriend does that to me. Makes me feel like he appreciates my body enough to watch and to grab a feel of my breasts from time to time.
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