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*anny.R
writes:Im very worrid, I have been told by people I trust very much that my partaner is cheating on me. She is denying it, but i dont think so many people can be lying. Also she was going to the cinima with another one of her freinds and someone said to her "You know your gonn'a kiss him" and she didnt reply. The person shes going to the cinima asked if anything was going to happen between the two. Still this is all rumors, she aparntly god a little intoxicated and kissed someone, but still i cant be sure. I have tryed confrounting her, and she seems determind to deny it. I just dont know who to trust. Also can i mention she has a history of cheating in relation ships. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): If there are several people telling you this, then yes, it's probably true. Why would several people concoct a lie to make you think that your girlfriend was cheating on you? And just because she was "intoxicated" and kissed someone else doesn't make it okay either. I've been intoxicated plenty of times when my boyfriend at the time wasn't around and I still knew what I was doing...I didn't cheat on him. People use it as an excuse, it's so pathetic. Quit being a pushover, trust your instincts.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (11 May 2008):
 How long have you been with this girl?
If there is several different people telling you the same thing then it has got to have an element of truth in this, if it was one isolated case and perhaps it was a girl who kept on telling you this then you would need to ask what her motives are but if this is males and females telling you then what have they said?
Have they said they have seen her out with other males or one in particular and have they seen them being intimate apart from one drunken kiss or something that she is also denying?
I think the only thing you can do is to either get a friend of yours that she does not know to follow her when she is supposedly going out with friends and not seeing you and then get that person to text or ring you and you confront her face to face so she has no way of denying it.
The one thing you need is proof so that you can confront her in all honesty.
If it is sending you potty then back off and tell her that you just don't need this anymore you either want a girlfriend you can trust or it is over.
I think getting proof would be my way of handling things but the ball is really in your court.
Good luck.
BFN
Country Woman
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