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writes:I have liked this guy for about 6 months now im only in high school but i think im in love because hes all i think about i really love him everyone says i would have a chance with him but i dnt think so. I don't know what to do because im a really quiet person and everytime hes around i freeze and he can't see the real me. Everyone says i should tell him but im afraid wat should i do because i dnt wanna lose this love iv'e neva felt this way before. Reply to this Question
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Hey :)
I was in EXACTLY your position. Everybody loved him and I felt like a nobody. We were friends and I didn't want to tell him because I thought it would change our friendship. I liked him for YEARS without saying anything.
I was a quiet, shy person too. I finally told him and he was really great about it. We still talk and have the occassional flirt just like we used to before, even though he didn't feel the same way. I loved him so much.
Thing is, though I thought I was being extra careful never letting on, he said he already knew. I guess with love like that you can't 100% hide it. So chances are, he may already know...
But yes, GO FOR IT. Just make sure you don't put him under pressure, let him know you're not expecting anything, you just want to be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Make sure he understand your concerns of losing his friendship. The terror is horrible I know, but how much worse would it be if he went and got a girlfriend and you never said anything?
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Ah, honey, it's nice that you have a big crush on a fella, you don know that is what it is don't you? Because Love is a pretty big word and that actually happens between two people who really know each other well.
I think it might be a bit off putting for you to blurt out your feelings to this guy who may not have a clue, but instead why don't you just work on relaxing and being the real you when you are around him. Start a conversation with him, a lot of times boys this age are extremely awkward about talking to a girl or girls, so help him out and start asking him his favorite food or music or sports team, what ever subject you want to talk about.
The more you have conversations and build up a friendship, the more dependent on your friendship he will become and then you can let him know that you really like him a lot and see how that works out for you.
Anyway, good luck in school and remember your studies!
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