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writes:I got married last weekend. I invited 15 of my own friends. Only 2 came, and they left really early too. About 8-10 other friends rsvp'd and said they were coming. They didn't show and only one bothered to tell me she couldn't make it because she was "sick". I emailed a couple of them to ask them what happened to them and one said she forgot b/c her sister was having her baby at the time, and that she was at the hospital but I looked at her Myspace and someone left her a comment saying that they appreciated her letting them stay at her house that night (of my wedding) and they also referenced drinking that night abd a show that they had gone to. So I know she was out that night partying and not at the hospital. Also if her sister had her baby I am pretty sure there would be something about it on her myspace and there wasn't. The other person said that her mom didn't want to watch her kids. She always uses that excuse when we're supposed to do something. I even told her previously that kids were welcome there. The other people haven't even gotten a hold of me to say sorry I missed your wedding. It was my big day and I feel really bad that my friends don't think I am important enough for them to share it with me. It is my 1st marriage. I don't understand why they would tell me they were coming then made no effort to go. I personally would not do that. I rented chairs for them all and accommodated food and drinks for them and gift bags, so that's another thing that is bothering me, because I feel they could have had the courtesy to tell me they weren't coming. I know I should just focus on my marriage and be happy bla bla bla but wouldn't you be upset too??
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reader, penta +, writes (21 September 2007):
 These are not your friends. Move on without a backward glance. Make new friends along with your new husband. Good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): It makes me wonder WHY they didn't come...they maybe made a pack to not go to show their disgust. They obviously don't like the guy you married
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reader, love hurts!! +, writes (21 September 2007):
 I would of course be upset all though Im only 14 myy sister resently got married and I know It ment ALOT to her to have her friends there to see her marry the love of her life!
and sweetheart If they cared the would HAVE done ANYTHING in there power to go to the most important dayy of your life!!!3
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 I would be furious.
Is it possible these people are not really your friends? Also, do they have a problem with your lifestyle or the person you married? Finally, could they just be jealous of you?
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 yep i would be. in fact i would be really really hurt and angry. i dont know what their problems are but they are clearly not very good friends. that was your wedding day! the happiest day of your life! and your friends said they would go then blew it out for a night out which they could do anytime. no wonder you're pissed!
all you can do is try to forget it. the people who DO matter were there. you've learned a lot about who your real friends are from this experience but try not to let it affect your memory of the day. i think you should say something to them because they were donwright rude to not show up without even telling you they couldnt make it. say something once, explain that you felt let down and hurt then see if they apologise or if they dont seem to care that they hurt you. everyone makes mistakes and sometimes hurting people is genuinely unavoidable but thats how you will know if these are friends worth having.
brooke
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