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writes:I need help. I have a friend whose parents are her like crap. While they haven't actually hit her yet, they've threatened too. They've said they were gonna smack a look off her face, beat her with a belt, knock her head off, and they keep pulling chairs out from under her so she falls. She's talked to one of the school counselors who told her that she couldn't do anything about it because they hadn't actually touched her, but I feel like I should help her somehow. I just have no idea what to do. Please help me! I don't want anything bad to happend to her. Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn +, writes (25 October 2008):
 You sound like a good friend. The counselor is wrong by not doing anything. The counselor has a legal duty to turn over any possible abuse whether it be physical, mental or sexual.
If her school doesn't do anything, you'll need to talk to someone. I'd ask the school to request an office come to the school and speak with her. Sounds like this situation definitely needs addressed before something does happen.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): That sounds horrible. How long has this been happening?
You are her friend, but the family is going to be really offended if you mention anything. They are going to direct the anger towards you and blame her for having friends like you. You need a powerful external force. Verbal abuse is very hurtful and your friend is exposed to it everyday. It's going to add up until she becomes a different person.
She needs to talk to her parents. What you can do is accompany her and help make her feel comfortable. You might even want to bring another friend. She needs to feel secure, and so do you. She needs to let her parents know how this makes her feel, but is not going to if she thinks it will lead to even more abuse.
I hope this helps, and I wish you and your friend all the best
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