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writes:My two friends are dating and when we go on outings together they just seem to go off and do their own thing leaving me and my friend in the dust. They constantly make out infront of us to our discomfort and always talk to themselves about inside jokes we dont know about. They pretty much only do things together and never invite us. My friend and I want to confront them about it but last time we tried they said we had no right and were just jealous. So basically what should we do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): i totally understand how you feel. it used to get on my nerves when i went to a nightclub with my friend, and she would kiss guys that she didnt even know !. i felt stupid and embarassed just standing there while she was kissing them, and i felt left out ,as she was supposed to be having a night out with me. i also thought she was stupid for kissing them, and i thought it was disgusting. i dont hang out with her any more. i got chatted up by guys in the nightclub too, but i dont kiss guys unless i'm in a relationship with them.
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reader, answerlessdreams +, writes (9 February 2011):
I would suggest hanging out with other friends. See if distance makes a difference. I knew people like this, and I just let them have at it. If they didn't want to hangout with me, I am not going to let it ruin my day. This probably is just a phase for your friend. Ride it out and see what happens.
Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): If you really miss spending time with them, invite them out more often. If you don't like watching them make out, turn the other way. Apart from that, you can't really do much and you don't have the right to tell them how to behave.If they are ditching you after being invited somewhere then complain about it specifically. I used to get pissed if I tried to spend time with a good friend and they left 20 minutes in because they got a text from some guy on a phone. I could see why the flakiness might be disrespectful, but they are free to love each other however, whenever they want.I say this, but I'm not a fan of PDA. I don't mind if people kiss each other or make out in airports or train station. But if it's over the top, if they are literally grinding on each other or making smacking sounds, then it bothers me too and I would feel uncomfortable. Some people yell "get a room" or avoid and cluster away from them. I just find a vantage point a couple feet away and watch them long enough until they start to feel uncomfortable. Since they are doing the same thing to me, I think it's only fair.
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