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writes:i have just started going out with a lovely boy whom I like very much!he's the sweetest, nicest guy ever. BUT,we hang in different groups in school, he is kind of with the "outcasts" (not my choice of word), which I have no problem with but my friends think otherwise!They also think he is "ugly"!!They keep telling me I can do better!Which I find really mean!to be honest, he can do better than me, he is a much nicer person than i am. How do I get my so called friends off my case about my bf?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunt Jess +, writes (11 May 2006):
 I suggest you speak to your friends about how u feel, tell them they're upsetting you and that you would like them to leave you alone. Explain that you're happy with your boyfriend and that you would be accepting if the situation was the other way round. Whatever you do, don't ditch your friends or your boyfriend, make sure you see them equally, as they will hold this against you for a long time. Good luck x X x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2006): i had a prob w that 2. tell them that theyre ur friends and when u say that it hurts u. say u wouldnt do that 2 them, u would suport them. but if any of them evr DO get a boyfriend, keep to ur word and respect him! good luck! mucho love!
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (10 May 2006):
 just put your friends in there place. tell that its out of order of them to insult your boyfriend, tell then to keep there opinioms of his appearance to themselves. because in you allow them to insult him infront of you they'll never stop. step up tell them what you think/feel let them no it isnt right for them to behave the way they to.
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reader, bonym +, writes (9 May 2006):
 What has your boyfreiend got to do with your loser mates? What sort of friends disrespect their friend's boyfriend? If you dont find him ugly, who gives a damn what your "mates" think? I am sorry to call your friends losers but thats how they are coming accross to me, they seem jealous, bitter and twisted and seem like they are not happy when you are happy. Tell them to mind their own business and hush their mouths. Its your life and your fella, they can back off. Tell them straight, mind their business. Listen my dear ask yourself this, a person once said this: "A friend is someone who knows the song in my heart and sings ot to me when my memory fails" A true friend will support you, not diss you and make fun of your boyfriend. Are your "friends" TRUE frieds or what? xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2006): Your friends are really out of order in that they are saying he is ugly! I bet they have never been in any meaningful relationship! Am I right?
I bet not all of your friends are against this relationship? If they are... I'm sorry to suggest this, but they arn't people you should be friends with.
Your boyfriend will feel absoluetely shit if he finds out that your friends are saying this about him. I think you need to explain how much you like your man and if your friends give you any hassle, refuse to talk about it any more!
You say "he is a much nicer person than i am" - I think this is a sign that you have been hanging around with your "friends" too long. They obviously don't understand what makes a nice person. Their immature and superficial ways are having a negative affect on you.
A true friend will encourage this relationship. Find these people, they are your friends.
Good luck with everything.
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