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writes:I am an journalist who moved to New York from the North of England 7 years ago, when I was 19. At the time I split from my boyfriend, who didn't want me to leave. But I couldn't miss the chance I'd waited for it all of my life. For the first year in New York I missed him terribly, but as I didn't hear from him I just assumed that he was fine and had moved on. However, I found out only a few months ago that he'd been in a few films and was really making it as an actor. And when I mentioned this to my boss, she suggested that I go over to London to have an interview before any other magazines did. So I did. However when I met up with him he told me that he loved me still and thought about me still. I was shocked and left the flat. I'm leaving for New York again in a few days. But I don't know what to do. I think I still love him, but with the history we've got and the distance between us... I just don't know if it would work. I see on all of the movies that I should just go up to him and tell him that I love him, but it's not as simple as that. He hurt me so much when he told me that I should just get on with my life, without him. HELP ME!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): Well my boyfriend actually moved to California and knew that he was moving before he got into the relationship with me.(7 months) When it was time for him to go, he didn't ask me how I felt about the move or even asked if I wanted to come. All he said was how much he loved me which really confused me. This made me so angry because If he really loved me like that, he wouldn't have left,or at lease included me in his plan. As of right now I'm not with him, but still very much love him and talk to him everyday, and can't let go, while it is slowly killing me inside!
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reader, lostgirl04  +, writes (9 May 2006):
 Hun if you still care about him and he obviously still cares for you then why not give it another go? The distance does suck but you are both older now, (not 19 anymore) and can probably handle the long distance better. It all depends on how you feel. If he really hurt you and you can forgive him then go for it. But if you can't get over how he hurt you then it won't work because that will always be in the back of your mind. My ex and I broke up after he moved away but I would love 2 be in the situation you're in, where I have an opportunity to start with him again. =)Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2006): Talking of films have you seen Family Man with Nicolas Cage?
I don't know. I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic myself so I'd love to suggest that you go to be with him, however...
Do you have a "bad" past with this guy. Or was it just circumstances that caused you to be apart?
Has he ever done any thing suggest that he doesn't love you? He hasn't been unfaithful, cheated, been interested in any one else? Perhaps he told you to live your life because he thought you working in the US would make you more happier than being with him?
If you have no baggage from your past with him, you should think about pursuing this relationship.
Think about a long distance relationship though. With these, you are ultimately reduced to making a choice between two options somewhere down the line. You either end things, or one of your moves to be with the other.
Would he be willing to move to the US? Would you be willing to move back to England?
Lastly... if you love him..... tell him!
Good luck!
Peter
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