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writes:ok so im 15 and going out with a 21 year old. everythings fine except my friends are being really annoying about how its wrong. what bothers me the most is my best friend is getting pissed off and hes always like dont even mention your bf anymore around me ok? idk what to do i know its friends before boyfriends but i cant dump him just because my bestfriend does.
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reader, Emmajane  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 It's strange, because I spend a lot of time and grew up in Italy where the age of consent is 14, as it is in most of Europe. These days it's very hard for people to hide their feelings when they grow up so quickly. When I was your age I had 19 and 20 year old boyfriends as I really could not cope with the insanely childish nature of boys my own age. Do you feel this way?
If you genuinely feel grown up enough for a relationship then an older man can be a good thing. However if this is illegal in your country you have to recognise this as he would be breaking the law big-time and you would have to remain "just good friends"
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): When I was your age me and my freinds NEVER got jealous of the other B/F, so I don't think this is always the case. Now your from the USA, if you from the UK it be diffrent but what I believe to be the problem is the age diffrence. They properly think he's a perve for wanting you, they are also worried about you. Now I think you should dump him and focus on your freinds, their properly bitching about you already and you don't want to lose them. I promise at this stage of your life, freinds mean EVERYTHING.
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reader, rcn +, writes (21 September 2007):
 After reading the answers I'd have to disagree with most. Seems as if they don't have the same legal system as we do here. It's illegal here (indecent liberties with a minor). There's a reason for those laws, to protect our children against adults that know what their doing when the child doesn't have a clue. It's wrong to date with that big of an age difference. Being a minor, you're both in a bad position. Let's say one of your "friends" seeks advise from a school administrator, or counselor, they are required by law to turn it over to the police department.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Firstly, your friends may or not be jealous. That male friend of yours might like you himself, and can not stand your bf for that reason.
However...even if that was the reason, you are making a mistake to date him.
You are a minor, and he is 21. And I know that in the USA where you live, THAT is illegal.
Your friends might be just trying not to be associated with a criminal (potentially a pedophile).
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (20 September 2007):
 id have to disagree with the other posters. It seems they may be angry cus your 15! basically a kid still and your dating a man. Maybe there just worried for your safety and whens hes around there freaked out by a man being around kids. I know i would be. Especially because your best friends a guy he may be a bit more protective of you, i am of my female friends.
In my view theres not much you can do to stop him ebing angry as your still 15 and your bfs still 23. If you really like this guy, just tell your friend and if hes still angry it will stay like that. Not much of advice but its what i feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): They don't approve because it is wrong for an adult man to be with a child. This is illegal, do you not see that? What does it say about a 21 year old man who has a 15 year old girl friend? It says he has some serious issues. And he is probably also using you. Your friends don't want to hear about it because they know it is wrong. You should also see this. Let him get a girl his own age..but he might be able to & that's why he's with you.
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reader, Emzy1591 +, writes (20 September 2007):
 Im in the same kind of situ as u. Im 15 and i went out out a 23 year old and even tho he made me happy my friends didnt approve. if they were ur true friends they wud be happy for you, thats what i said to my friends and they said ur right if he makes u happy then we r happy. So talk to them and try to make them see he makes you happy xxx
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