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writes:I'm desperate to get outta here.My friends are all wrapped up in their boyfriends and don't have any time for me.I live a long way away from any of my supposed friends. So I am contantly bored and lonely and cry a lot. I want to go.My family don't have any time for me.After my GCSEs, I have NOTHING going for me in this country. I hate it.I long to go to a performing arts school. I have a prize for outstanding drama, I've been on stage since 13 years old. I'm on grade 7 singing and I'm often asked to sing on stage... I want something new and exciting. There's nothing keeping me here...Do you think it would be worth asking my parents whether I can go to a performing arts school in a year?I mean, I'd miss it to some extent, but my friends obviously have no time for me in their new perfect lives, my family have got other things going on and I'm single so I really don't have anything keeping me here... What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): hey- dont worry- i know what you're going through cos a similar thing is happening to me
all my friends are in serious relationships and although we still hang out i always feel like a thrid wheel...
go for the performing arts thing- i moved 8000 miles from my home to go to college and its a completely amazing experience- now i can take up art seriously and ive made loads of new friends, alot of whom are single too
besides, there's nothing stopping you from going home in a cppl of years after you've achieved all your goals- theyll all see the amazing life you've lead while they stupidly stayed behind and wrapped up their lives in relationships!
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reader, Carina  +, writes (6 June 2007):
 It's good you're happy being single. To be honest, it's your friends loss, not yours. There's no point in rushing into relationships for the sake of it...and anyway it means you're free to do whatever you want! Look at the positive side of it.
I think the suggestion to try to meet other likeminded people locally is a good one. Aren't there any amateur dramatics you can join or something like that? Even if it's just until you go off somewhere else...
Hope things work out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, thanks very much!
I refer to them as my "supposed" friends because every time I say to them " do you wanna come down?" they say " I want to see my boyfriend" whom they see every day.. why don't they want to see me??
I guess I am jealous of the fact that they are happy and I'm not... I'm happy being single but they don't half make me feel lonely!
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reader, Carina +, writes (6 June 2007):
Go out there and do what's in your heart. You sound very unhappy and there may be other reasons why, but if you do what makes you happy as a career you'll be halfway to sorting yourself out. I think the idea of going to a performing arts school is brilliant. Of course you should talk to your parents about it. Why not do some research on the internet first and find out what courses you could do, where and how much it would cost? Then talk to them.
When you talk to them explain how you're feeling about everything. In the end your parents want you to be happy and I'm sure if they knew how you're feeling they'd be very supportive and helpful.
On the otherhand do be careful that you're not just trying to run away from some problem within yourself. Why do you refer to friends as 'supposed' friends and why do you think everyone else has 'perfect' lives? Both those statements make it sound as though you're a wee bit jealous and resentful, but I'm not sure why. Perhaps you're feeling angry that things aren't working out the way you hoped when you were younger?
If you have no reason to stay where you are and you have the courage and resources to go elsewhere and do something exciting and new, then you should do it. It will open up a whole new life for you. You're young and life should be an adventure! Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): I know how you feel, I moved away from my friends and my schoool and they didn't have time for me anymore. It's tough, I know. But you know what? I made new friends. I'm sure there are people your age in your area, or people with similar interests to you. Have you tried signing up with a local drama club? (assuming there is one in your town). Apart from meeting like-minded people, your parents would also be able to see how important drama is to you. But it is definitely worth asking your parents about the drama school. I obviously don't know what your parents are like but if you're good at it and you're passionate about it and want to make a future out of it, then your parents' will probably offer their support. tell them how lonely you're feeling and you'd like to try and meet people, and enjoy things youre good at, maybe enrol in singing classes or music classes if that's what you like. Activities like that give you something to focus on and work towards.
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