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writes:Ok--this is kind of weird. Bear with me, please. I just split up with my partner of 6 years. I'm pretty upset over it. Most of my friends have been very supportive, but 2 of them (a couple) have started acting just plain weird. 1--they tried to set me up with their old Deadhead buddy--before I was even broken up with my ex! Then, after he left, they gave this guy my FB account and he messaged me "will u b my platonic valentine?". Ok, fine--I told him I wasn't ready for any kind of new relationship. Then the other night, when I was hanging out at the couple's house, they called this guy up on the phone and the first thing he says to me is "So, I tried to kill myself tonight." He is dying of cirrhosis (liver failure), but I'm not anybody's last hurrah gal. He is also 20+ years older than me. He offered to give me money if I would move cross-country to help him in his last days but I am not doing that, I have small children(who are not invited) and that is just kind of weird, don't you think?I've told them, I don't know how many times, please don't set me up, I am not ready, but they just won't listen. (It's only been 3 weeks!)2--Then, later that night my female friend tried to kiss me and basically invited me to have a 3some with her and her husband. She got *mad* at me because I didn't want to get set up with anyone and asked me if I was a lesbian!!Can someone please help?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (5 March 2011):
 These are "friends" you need in the same way you "need" an excrutiating and persistent headache!
In other words, they're no friends at all. I think it would be a good idea to cut contact with them - at least for the next several months and see if they cease and desist. If they don't, I'd cross them off my list for good.
As for the guy - well, yeah, it is very weird. Maybe he is as ill as he says, maybe he isn't. I wouldn't have any futher dealings with him either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): I think you need to hang around with some of your other friends for now or make new friends. These people have no respect for your feelings or your boundaries. Give yourself time to grieve and to sort out your feelings about your breakup and be good to yourself. Take care.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (5 March 2011):
 I mean they're completely creepy and weird, it sounds like they've been waiting for this break up to come around for a while so they could act on it! If she's supermad at you then completely take advantage of that and cut them out of your lives for a while. I'm sorry if that sounds callous or harsh but they clearly don't have your best interests at heart. you're going to have to look out for yourself and/or maybe rely on other circles of friends.
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