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*hilippa
writes:I had a long conversation with my boyfriend and suprisingly for once in 11 years he was understanding (or maybe he was pretending lol ).He is doing lots of efforts .Im affraid that it's too little too late.That is how I feel , I love my kids , I still have some feelings for him and im willing to give it another chance .With a little work everything should go great .But I was too sad for to long and theurge to cheat is just strong and im scared .My friend of 20 years is willing to keep quiet and make all of my dreams come true ,no strings attached . He always noticed that I was not happy. Should I terminate this friendship or go for it ? My heart says yes ,my mind says yes and deep in my soul no ! Reply to this Question
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reader, philippa +, writes (7 August 2010):
philippa is verified as being by the original poster of the question You guys are soo right thanks for the advice.Where there is smoke , there is always fire . My mind is clear and my eyes are wide open .My relasonship is going in the right direction and I am sooo gratefull for you guys to tell me the truth of the situation .I feel much better now .merci :)
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (7 August 2010):
 How is cheating going to improve your relationship? You're angry with your boyfriend over all of the years you were unhappy in the relationship, which is understandable, but your anger over the past does not give you a pass to be unfaithful now. Either you want to work things out with him or you don't; you can't say you want to give it another chance and at the same time do something that will cause irreparable damage your relationship.
Before you even THINK about cheating, get clear on what you want. If you feel it's too little, too late, break up with your boyfriend. If you want to work things out, keep your legs closed and tell your "friend" to take a hike. It's simple as that.
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reader, dyeruz  +, writes (7 August 2010):
Go ahead and cheat and once this so called friend who wants to cheat with you (whatta pal) has used you and once your boyfriend finds out..and trust me he will know because he'll read the changes all over your face..and you lose them both then you'll see it was worth it!
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reader, xAx +, writes (6 August 2010):
 I think you shouldn't cheat. For once your boyfriend is trying to reach out to you. Let him. Ask him to do the things that would make you happy. You don't need this other man.
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