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female
age
30-35,
*corpion-Phoenix
writes:Hi!. Well i have been with this guy for about 2 and a half years..we live together and he is five years older than me.. he is like a kid..although he is the older one I always seem to be the one who is more mature and more serious about our life/goals/problems.Throughout our relationship i feel that he has lied to me. When we started going out he had another gf who he hadn`t broken up with but he told me he had...all his friends said otherwise..including the girl..so she accused me of stealing her bf...i gave him the benefit of doubt...Then he had an old friend who he would dirty talk with and when i found out he at first denied it as if it wasnt him and he never replied but that wasn`t the case and i yet again gave him another chance..and asked him to stop doing that...When i was out of town he had the time to go clubbing with his mates and chat up other girls and i don`t know he might have even slept with some one..i don`t know if i should believe him and give him the benefit of doubt..He then also again got caught txting the same girl he was dirty talkin before and there were even calls he made to her! and he said it wasnt him..it was one of his friends who used his phone...but doesnt matter cause i wouldn`t believe him anyway...? i mean come on how can i??Then i found out about his new habit of goin on hi5 and lookin at girls profiles...specifically pictures...which are porn!..buhh real life people..and dirty talkin to some of them and talkin to them and gettin off those things...and yet again i game him another chance!. and now yesterday i went through his laptop history and he was doing it again...on hi5 perving at people...he also watches a LOT of porn every single dayy and does the things well guys do...and i don`t think there is anything wrong with watching porn but i guess it hurts when he says he is always tired to spend anytime with me and he wants to sleep ( he works nights so sleeps in the day) we practically dont have a sex life anymore and we never go anywhere spend any time together or anything...but he finds the time to do things like these...and like i said watching porn is wel not a crime but hi5 consists of real like people and although its like porn its more like perving people than watching porn and to me those two are not the same thing!. So i went to him and asked him if he had been doin that again and he lied to my face by denying it!. but his history was right there!. then he says to me i just logged on for a minute to see my page and than just saw the people who added me..if that was the case i dont think he would have needed to lie to me...?Well so the problem is for some reason i keep givin him chances because i love him but will he really ever change? and give up his habits? when he gets caught he is sad when i say i will leave him and he acts as if he feels so guilty and he will change his ways and i fall for it...but since the past so many times he hasnt changed....so what do i do?and even though i would want to break up with him according to our financial situation it wont be easy! he cant afford to move out and live on his own! and i dont want him living on the streets..we currently board at a relative`s place...what do i do?sorry for the long one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): It sounds like you're in a relationship with a chronic cheater and liar, and you know it. If you're living together, it complicates getting out of the relationship, but what he does doesn't sound like things he's just going to change, and when you confront him about it, he lies. He does NOT care about your feelings or how his actions make you feel.
I'd say unload this loser and move on.
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