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writes:I have a work partner that love to talk about sex, and relationships,. One day we were talking about relationships and she said that if you are with a guy that you like and enjoy being around, you still should go out with other guys until you meet someone that wants to marrie you in a certain amount of time. (like giving them a year to marrie you for an example) In other words cheat around until you find someone to put a ring on your finger. She said you can mess around up until you get engaged to someone. I really don't agree with her. She 's the type that sleep around with alot of guys. She also said that sticking with one guy and commiting to them is NOT IN THE BIBLE, it only relate to people that are married. what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): Well in my opinion you are right. And she'll never find anyone to marry her if she is unfaithful all the time. She obviously has not been in love before.
Just try to accept her view whilst knowing that it is something you dissagree with.
You live your own life and as long as you so what's right in your eyes, then it doesn't matter what she gets up to in her private life.
See if you can talk about other subjects.
Good Luck,
Emivia. x
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reader, BabyGurl27 +, writes (24 August 2008):
BabyGurl27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy friend think CHEATING is only when you're married and you step out of the relationship and have sex with someone than the person you're married. She thinks having a boyfriend/girlfriend means nothing. She replys," Being faithful is Only for married people, God did not say that in the bible". I tried to make her see it my way but she never get off the subject and i'm tired of hearing it
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): I don't think you should judge your friend. Sleeping around with a lot of people isn't smart for a lot of different reasons; however, who she sleeps with isn't really your business.
I do not think she is cheating on anyone unless she told someone or gave them reason to believe that they were going to be exclusive. In a lot of ways, I think it is smart to shop around and see a lot of different people and make sure you find the right one rather than snagging someone who's got some good qualities but who might not really be the best choice for you and then spending the next few years trying to convince yourself that they are, perhaps getting married just because you feel like it's the normal thing to do, but not really loving the person.
I think she is healthy. It takes some people awhile to have a serious relationship. I have friends who are like this and I have friends who stay in committed relationships. I myself have had only long-term, serious relationships and I actually wish I could be a little bit more like your friend. But I'm not. I either love the person or don't like them much at all.
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reader, belladonna123  +, writes (24 August 2008):
I agree with you and Emivia. This friend of yours is trying to rationalise her "unacceptable" behaviour. I certainly wouldn't accept that if I was engaged or ever just dating her. It's defiantely not OK to sleep around even if the person is just your boyfriend/girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): Personally I am not a religious, but I feel as though cheating is terrible. Even if it does not mention it in the bible it should still not be done. Back in those days they wouldn't have dated much, would they? They would have gotten engaged and married at a VERY young age... Sleeping around in god's eyes (as far as I know) would not be acceptable as you are supposed to wait until you are married to have sex.
When you agree to go out with someone you are making them a promise not to be with anyone else and to be faithful. Cheating breaks a HUGE promise and someone's trust in you. It can be extremely hurtful.
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