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writes:HelloAm looking for advice.I have a major crush on my boss and am alienating others cos of it. I keep making a fool out of myself even though i know he is gay and even if he wasn't he wouldn;t want me.What can I do to get him out of my head?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): I have a crush on my boss too. It's so unrealistic that it is rediculous-yet the feelings are still there. I'm in my 30s & married with 2 young children. He is 2 years older with kids my age + a small child by a woman he's with. So, relationships, kids, boss/employee situation, & the big one is the age difference---so I KNOW in my head that it doesn't make sense and I'm probably just bored and the attention feels good, but yet I can't stop thinking about him. I make up reasons to chat to flirt to carry on... I just don't know what to do! I find myself wanting to express all this the next time we go on a conference together... But I know that I shouldn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): i got huge crush on my boss too... it's really hard cos i make sure to have an extra step everyday to be closer with him, or atleast to have a candid conversation with him, well, i like seeing him smiling- i bet you can relate to that...it's a constant struggle you know... and somehow, at one point--- there would be someone,or something that would make you pull back to make this step- a new position or a new employee, maybe.
You have to ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT he's your boss, and unless you perceive that he might like you the same way too, you shouldn't make it hard to yourself--move on.. look at the other guys around you. You could have a good friendship with your boss atleast.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): I would enjoy a good friendship with that person. I have a crush on my boss, as well, and I decided just to enjoy being near him. Sometimes, it's best just to think of them as a brother or father (depending on their age). That way, they become more like family and you lose the crush naturally as you learn more about them.
That's my experience, anyway. I hope it helps!
Diane
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): If he is gay then nothing is going to happen so just try and think of him with another person, a bloke and that should certainly get him out of your head. It will take time though. Just try and stop thinking about him at all.
take care
xx
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reader, alieP91  +, writes (10 December 2007):
 You can't really do anything but get him in ur head so much that you just get sick of him.OrTell him and see what happens
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reader, kenny +, writes (9 December 2007):
 Its never easy crushing on someone and the feelings are not reciproated. I think that you have got to just tell yourself that nothing could ever happen between the pair of you for various reasons. For starters he is your boss, and dating co-workers, espessially bosses can lead to lots of complications anyway. And he does not date the female sex as he is gay. I know its hard but you have got to just put him to the back of your mind and move on. If you find that you are unable to do this then maybe you should consider getting a transfer, or leaving this job.
All the best x
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