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writes:There is a girl who is my childhood friend but her family went to another city when i was 11..i used to like her at that time.now after ten years i contacted her.and we do lot of chatting and phone calls now and i love her a lot now and i even told her that but she said that she dont feel the same and she dont want to be in love so i also didnt forced her.now after a year she told me that she love someone else and i should make a girlfriend also but i deeply love her and cant think of any other girl no matter how hard i try...what should i do?please please please help me..i am in real worry Reply to this Question
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reader, Amit thakur +, writes (28 August 2011):
Amit thakur is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPeople say time heals everything but its not working out in my case...from the day i first wrote untill today ,there have not been a single moment when i have not thought about her.in everything i do,.wheather being with friends or being with my parents or doing any work i like the most,shes always on my mind..i feel like crying always..i am not able to concentrate on my studies or enjoy doing anything..i just want her back.. that chatting and calling each other..i just want to listen to her voice . thinking about that shes not gonna talk to me again really KILLS me.!!i just want her.then everything will be fine.ryt now shes not replying to me and picking my phone whenever i call....please guys help me out.any idea why she's doing this. And how can i bring her back...please help needed..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): Man i have Same thing ...but with Difference ...She is my Friend From 10 years Ago i used to be her friend in past ...then she turned with me by luck to the new school that i just turnet to it too but at the new school i just saw her From behind without Words but when i went to university i told her i love you But she told me i dont ...when in School i used to love her too but i told myself we still children So later ...But Now ....Eh ....i hate to Say ...But.... SHE MAKES ME CRYING SOMETIMES .... i failed one Year at the university because i was Mad with her ....Searching For her in Every Girl Even Due Exams ...She Makes me Crazy ...My father and Mother are Doctors Never Put Ciggeret in their Mouth ...But i Do ....I Extremely Love Her ...Even One time i told myself one Time if i got her married i will Not have Relation with her as man and women ...I dont want her Got Damaged ...i would Like Her like That Putting her in Glass Cube ... haha as joking Ideas....Now i am Going my 20 at Nov ..Help Me i cant Afford No peace no war Situation
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reader, Amit thakur +, writes (14 August 2011):
Amit thakur is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGuys..i just called her a few days back and i was shocked in the way she answered.she didnt showed any happiness..she was like...''hum.,how r u..,i am fine'' and just that ..i kept asking her what is the reason behind this behaviour and she said its nothing...she said shes running out of battery and cut the phone.. It hit right on my head..why is she doing this..i know her from childhood.she is a sweet,caring and soft hearted girl and last year she said that no matter what happens i will be her best friend.she use to msg me daily..Now what had happened to her.she dont reply me even once.why had she became so rude..i dont know if she wanted to avoid me?if so..then why?i am really sad now and i even cried after that call..bcoz i dont have the ability to end this .i luv her since we were in 4th grade..she is my only friend.i just cant live without her and how can u just end ten years long love.now i am in really tension.what to do.?guys HELP Please...
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reader, aresu  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 wow, 10 years is a lot of time, that shows that you really really like her if you cant stop thinking about her even after all that time.
im sorry that you are hurting so much, and seeing her family and remind you of her must be hard, but you need to give youself time. time is the key word, time is one of the best medicines for emotional pain, but you need to try to play a role in that too, do things that you enjoy, anything, be it a hobby or a job, projects, maybe video games, i dont know, anything that you like, you also need to keep your mind ocuppied.
i think that you should keep calling her, but try not to overdo it, is easy to get ahead of ourselves and start to annoy people if we dont give them space, im not saying that you are, im just saying it so you keep it in mind. talk to her from time to time, just tell her about things that are happening in your life, tell her to give you her oppinions, you know, keep her in your life in one way or another, she doesnt need to be there with you, it sounds like she will always be in your hearth(as corny as it sounds), and you ill see her someday, but try to not obsess over it, as i sad, enjoy the things you do, meet new people, you may even meet another wonderful girl, and who know ehat may happen in the future, just be optimistic, and i hope that everything ends up working for you.
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reader, Amit thakur +, writes (7 August 2011):
Amit thakur is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all 4 suggestions.i really appreciate.in my opinion since its been almost ten years that she had seen me and now she is not interested in me because we only talk on phone.last year when i called her after ten years we both were very excited and for 7 to 8 months we continuously keep calling and mesaging.at that time she told me that she likes me too.i dont know what happened after that she rarely mesaged me and never called me.i am kind of guy who dont have much friends and she was my only friend.whenever i talked to her ,it gave me pleasure and forget all my worries.even her family just shifted to my town but she is still studying in another city and since her parents and mine were close friends,we went to their house week ago to meet them.now i feel really low and alone and misses her more than ever..many times i feel like crying remembering the old days..what shud i do now.call her again...?please suggest me what to do...i need help..plz
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reader, aresu +, writes (7 August 2011):
im sorry about your situation, i know is hard and forget about her in a romantic way is going to be very difficult, but for your sake and hers as well, you will need to stop thinking about her like that or you may push her away from you, and may even end your relationship.i dont recommend looking for a girlfriend right away, because if your friend is in your head you will not be able to like someone else just like that. i recommend taking some time for your self and just enjoy life and improving yurself. what i try to say is try to make yourself happy, and only time will make you get over those feelings enough for you to try looking for other girls.i hope what i told you can be helpful for you, i wish you luck.
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reader, blondieee5199  +, writes (6 August 2011):
Hey!I'm so sorry that this has happened. I've been in a similar situation before, and I know it's not fun. To me it sounds like she just isn't interested right now, "RIGHT NOW" being the key words. You never know what the future may hold. Right now she just wants to see other people, and maybe she doesn't want to deal with a long distance relationship. I think the best thing you can do right now, is be the best friend you can to her. Maybe one day it won't work out with the one she's with now, and she'll turn to you, her best friend, for comfort, and you never know, maybe she'll realize what a great guy you are and start becoming interested. I can't guarantee this will happen, but nothing is impossible. Just be the best friend you can be. That's the best thing for both of you right now. Good luck!
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (6 August 2011):
 Unfortunately it seems as though she doesn't feel the same way as you do. So if you continue to express to her how much you love her (in a beyond friendship type way), you'll not only continue to feel the sting of rejection, but you'll put her in an awkward position and you may lose her friendship.
If you truly value your friendship with her, that should give you some motivation to look for someone else to get involved with. I'm sure you know the cliche that "there's other fishes in the sea"...well in this case it's true. Understand that there's many more wonderful girls that you can meet, and you may not only find someone that you could express your love to, but someone who can tell you that also.
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