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writes: I need advice. I am really hurting from a breakup with someone who I considered a very close friend. It all started last summer when the friend failed to tell me she was seeing someone who I was friendly with. We had all met one weekend and she had plenty of time to tell me but never did. I did have my suspicions and confronted her about it and it came out. It had turned out they had been seeing each other for some weeks and I was never told. I was really angry and ended my friendship with someone who I considered a close friend and thought I could trust. We had a few arguements via text and msn messenger and then in the autumn the ex friend texted me asking to meet me. I was in work at the time and never replied. A few days later my boss called me in and said they had received an e mail of complaint !!! My boss and I agreed for me not to contact her and her not to contact me. But the ex friend broke this and started sending me abusive text messages. Then at Christmas the ex friend used a public forum to post my personal details and made degoratory comments. On the strength of this I rang the boyfriend and we chatted for 3 hours. My ex friend found out and split with her boyfriend!. I am really upset by my ex friend's actions. Part of me is glad the friendship is over, but part of me wants to resolve this. I do miss the former friendship we had. But I don't know how to repair things. I just don't know what to do. It is my friend who has done wrong, but I am made to feel the guilty party. Can anyone give advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2006): you know what.your friend should be the one who should be apolising and feeling guilty for what she did to you instead of the other way around.Friendship is a golden chain which is based on TRUST.well she broke your trust and do u think you can continue your friendship after whatevers happened?it is but natural to remember the good times n feel bad bt u also have to realise that theres no point you have to move on not because you have to but you should for yourself because you deserve much more in life.you will get better friends in life just be little cautious next time when you make friends....
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (8 January 2006):
Dear oh! dear! You have well and truly been shafted by a sad,sick, vengeful person.
Your friendship cannot b repaired because you will always have it in the back of your mind all the things that have happened.
Cut your losses and move on from these people.You will meet newer,nicer people to be friends with and by letting go of the past, you give yourself a fresh perspective on your future.
Stop being the victim by taking on guilt. Whatever happened did so for many reasons beyond your control.Wish them all well because what goes around, comes around and you can stand by and watch it happening knowing you have a clear conscious.
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