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writes:i dont know how to handle this. i have met up with this guy a couple of times. one of my friends has tried to set us up. he has never had a girlfriend, even though he is in his 30's, but i have dated a few men. i dont feel attracted to him, but he said he thinks i'm beautiful and he emails a lot and keeps asking me to meet him again. he also keeps pestering me for my phone number. i dont have a mobile now, he kept asking for that number first, then when he knew i didnt have one, he kept asking for my house phone number. i had to lie and say that i was only allowed to give a mobile number out, not my house number. i still live with my family. plus i dont like giving my house number out to people i hardly know anyway.he also makes some disrespectul comments as well. and he kisses me on the cheek without asking me if he can give me a kiss. i dont know how to let him down without offending him and my friend, as she is friends with both of us.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 October 2010):
I fancied a girl four years ago and came on a bit too strong and ruined it (not as strong as this guy though). To be fair to her, she was very kind about it, and I have a lot of respect for that. I think you've got to be honest. It's best that way. It'll get rid of the problem, and though he might be offended or hurt, it's better than having him on your back all the time. Just tell him that he's a nice guy, that he'll make another girl very happy. Then just tell him that you don't think it's working out and you think it's best to see other people. Be firm, but keep an element of politeness about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): I agree with the first comment, you need to be quite blunt with him as he seems the type of man who doesn't get being subtle! Especially since he has never had a girlfriend he is bound to get very clingy to the first girl that shows an interest. I'd call it off before he gets even more into you.
Good Luck x
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 Tell him you're not interested and be done with it, you won't offend your friend if she knows you just aren't attracted to him. If you continue to be polite rather than tell him how you feel directly, he won't get the hint and will only keep pushing. Make it clear you don't like his advances or disrespectful comments. Men like him don't know when to stop until explicitly told to do so.
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reader, lexiluvsjesse  +, writes (22 October 2010):
you need to tell him that you truly aren't interested in him at the moment and that you want to focus on your career, and in this economy that is a legitimate excuse...good luck
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