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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: My friend and I have known each other since we were about 8-9, we have been close since we met each other. Used to have a right laugh, tell each other everything. Obviously we used to have loads of other friends. But just recently she seems to be getting distant. She never wants to go out when I do, she doesn't invite me out/over any more (unless she has nothing to do OR if she wants to get out of town, I drive, she doesn't) we make plans but when I text her, she often ignores me. She has made loads of new friends and I feel a bit left behind. All my friends have seemed to move on without me. I can't talk to her about it because she would just laugh at me. What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): We all have been through these types of relationships at one time or anouther. Kicking her to the curb - is too mean - personally I am too nice and too giving to due that... I think this is one you can only decided whats best for you.. If you think just maybe she is just using you, leave and don't look back- or talk to her- who cares if she laughs at you, you care enough to ask a question most people are scared to ask, that is bold not silly, the other option is the one I like give her space- my grandmother always told me "time away make the heart grow fonder".. I believe this to be true. What I would do is give her space- people now days are all about "ME" rushing around busy.. As grownups - we really loose site- to keeping it simple and fun... I would see if she calls you and if she does'nt - do not take it personal.. I would call back after a while - like a month or 2... In the mist of the time find coworkers or other friends to hang with..
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (23 March 2009):
Eugh I been through the same sort of thing just make some new friends yourself maybe she's getting a bit distant because she wants to have her freedom and like meet new and other people? I'm not saying she don't want to be your friend but sometimes wants to branch off and meet new people she'll still keep in contact with you but leave her be for a bit and you make some new friends and stuff, if you feel she is using you for your car next time she asks if you want to do something which involves driving just say sorry can't got plans.Kick her to the kerb as she does with you she'll realise you've also got your own group of friends too :)If need any more help feel free to message me, hope this helps hun :)
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