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writes:Hmmm, right i like this lad...he likes me, pretty straight forward right? not really seen as he's my mates mate n she reli reli likes him. He asked me out n i said yes. My friend said she was fine with it but isnt and now she making me feel bad about everything,she has even gone as low as calling me names on msn, as a result of this, i spent most of the evening in tears. I dont want to loose my best friend but i havnt been happy for about a year because of stuff and for once when im with him im sooo happy apart from when she gets involved n makes me sad :(. What do/can i do? help please xxx
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reader, lildeesbg  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Jealousy is the root of all evil ! with that said... its not your fault. You handled the situation like an adult when you asked her if it would be okie to date this guy. I know she is your best friend, but a person who can feel comfortable calling her best friend names isnt a friend. She should be happy that your happy and since shes not it really goes to show that she isnt the friend you thought she was. Unfortunately, you will experience that a lot in life.
If your friendship means that much, try talking with her. Tell her how hurt and disappointed you are by her actions. Give her at least a chance to realize her insecurities/jealousy (because deep down that is why she is doing what she is doing). In the end if things dont change its best to reconsider this "best friend" because she doesnt have your BEST interest at heart
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): May I say and hint that people's best friends can sometimes be not good friends? Why not accept a wider range of friendships and allow a few good friendships to develop, rather than have one person incorporate that aspect of yourself?
This time however, I have to disagree with AngelOfLove that it would be a shame that you two fall out over this.
This best friend of yours is better without. You're not missing much if you lose her from this perspective thus far.
Eg: if say it was me and you and I'm a girl here that we both like the same guy. If he chose you over me, nice. I may feel uncomfortable, maybe even hurt, but if you're the great friend I've always had, then that's even better. Over time, I would have just shrugged it off and possibly find my own man.
First sign, she is so immature and unrefined. Second sign, being your best friend, she isn't all that considerate nor sincere. Third sign, if you have to talk about this between the two of you, it goes to show how much of a lack of affinity she has with you.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (18 January 2007):
 You need to talk to your friend again and explain how hurt you feel.
It was not your intention to hurt her feelings and she did tell you she was ok with it giving you the green light!
As your best friend, she needs to be understanding and see your side, be more considerate and support you.
Your boyfriend chose you not her, that is not your fault, or hers for that matter. Remember, to put yourself in her shoes, she has been rejected and also is hurting inside.
It would be a shame for you two to fall out over this. You both need to get together and have good "girlie" chat.
Good luck
lot of hugs x
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