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writes:i've been having a fling with a guy for 3 months, I've grown strong feelings for him, i think about him day an night, he says im too emotional and he dont do emotional talk. once he told my friend all he wanted from me is sex and im not getting the message, he doesnt call me or reply 2 my texts. when he sees me on the street he ignores me. im strugglin to move its been 3 weeks haven't heard from him. i just hate the fact that he could be having sex with sum1 else.. Help!
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 "but I really enjoyed the sex and wanted more than what he gives me. I don't want someone else to have sex with him"
apple-s, apple-s: PLEASE, you are not listening! Not to him and not to us. He doesn't give a two-penny damn what you do or don't want! He is using you for sex, pure and simple. What you want is irrelevant - you're NOT GOING TO GET WHAT YOU WANT FROM HIM!
So: GIVE UP ON THIS WORTHLESS JERK!!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 July 2010):
 You are mistaken being USED for being NEEDED or LOVED. He is USING you. And he is being straight forward about it.
This is not a relationship, you are his "fuck-buddy" his toy, that he wishes had a mute button. Other then the sex, there is nothing.
Just because he has sex with you doesn't mean he doesn't have it with anyone else.
TAKE this as a learning experience ALL GIRLS should have. MEN can not be "fixed" you can not "change" them unless they want the change themselves.
Dump him, cut the contact and find a man who wants ALL of you not just your nether regions.....
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 July 2010):
 "but i really enjoyed the sex with and i wanted more from him, what he gives me i dont want him to give to sum1 else"
Here's the harsh reality. WHAT YOU WANT DOESN'T MATTER TO HIM! He doesn't care. He is using you for sex. Seriously, this guy must be amazing in bed for you to want to be used like this.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (16 July 2010):
 Sorry, my words were harsh, and it dosen't help your situation to feel that people are against you. You started with sex, and sex brought loving feelings, there is nothing wrong with that.
But he's not the right guy, he's not respectfull.. It's easy to love a snake from afar, much less dangerous. Give up on this one, date other guys, hang out with your girlfriends, go and have fun.. do without sex for a little while untill you feel a little bit stronger..
So sorry, love is like madness when it hits, it makes us think and behave irrationally.. Time away from him will help you to heal and find someone better to get close to.
Again, I'm sorry for being so rude and unkind about the justifiable heartache you are suffering.. Big hugs, dump this guy he don't have no manners..
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reader, Miamine +, writes (16 July 2010):
Your problem is you don't listen..
1) It's a fling, it's not a friendship, it's not boyfriend and girlfriend, it's just a sex thing.
2) He told you he only wants sex, he isn't intrested in your opinions, your emotions or your feelings.. He just wants to get his penis between your legs.
3) He isn't intrested in you as a person. He ignores you in the street. He isn't interested in talking, he ignores your texts.. IT'S A RELATIONSHIP BASED ON ONLY SEX!!!!!
You have feelings, well, time to break it off then.. He isn't intrested in your feelings. If you have feelings you get upset and think that you can treat him as a boyfriend. He aint promised you that, he has promised you nothing except a good (I hope) fuck.
You can't have feelings if it's just about sex, that's not what he wants from you and he can't give them back.
Sorry, but the guy told you already.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (16 July 2010):
Well, there you have it! He has made it clear he is only with you for sex; he's told you he thinks you're "too emotional" and he doesn't "do emotional"; he ignores you and hasn't contacted you in three weeks......
You SERIOUSLY need to let it go!
It doesn't matter whether he's having sex with someone else or not. You're coming across to him as too needy - that's never appealing.
Don't continue to dwell on thoughts of him. Focus on your life; what you enjoy doing; work, family, friends......give up all ideas of trying to get in touch. Assert your dignity, recognize he's not worth it, and that you deserve MUCH better than him!
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reader, apple-s +, writes (16 July 2010):
apple-s is verified as being by the original poster of the question but i enjoyed da sex with him and wanted more than sex, an i dont want him give other girls what he gives to me.
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reader, apple-s +, writes (16 July 2010):
apple-s is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut i really enjoyed the sex with and i wanted more from him, what he gives me i dont want him to give to sum1 else
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 July 2010):
You need to end it with him. He's made it clear that you're there for sex and absolutely nothing else, and every time you text him, you lose respect for yourself. Move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): Okay 1stly - Delete his number this is a guy you shouldnt get yourself caught up on2ndly - Clingyness is really unattractive3rdly - Learn to get your feeling in check its one thing to have an infatuation but it seems like your infatuation is turning into a obsession.The best way to get over a guy is to not forcus on them. Distraction is the key, i'm not talking about sleeping with loads of guy. I'm talking about finding something that makes you smile, makes you happy and throwing yourself into it.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 July 2010):
Yes, you're being used. He told you that. He is likely not replying because he is getting it from someone who isn't so attached. You got played by a player. Move on.
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