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writes:I work with this girl and I really like her, we were sort of seeing each other for a while but it didnt work out because she didnt want to commit to a relationship.Now I hear she is going out and getting drunk to the point of being sick at least 3 times a week. I have also become aware that she is sleeping around and getting herself a reputation as a slag.Is there anything I can say or do to save her from this mess she has gotten herself into. I know at heart she is a good person and I dont want to see her ruin her life.She is a single parent because the last guy she was with treated her badly and I just dont want to see her end up another guy like that.
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reader, ladybaby +, writes (28 February 2006):
A friend of mine went this way last year. She ended up alienating a lot of people through drink and sleeping with too many of the wrong people (brother's mates, friends' partners, the works) She was completely in denial about this and frankly everyone got fed up of trying to help her. Do you know what worked? When she rang up to come out with me one night, I told her no, that she wasn't welcome, that I went out to enjoy myself not to babysit a promiscuous lush. She slammed the phone down on me (as expected) and after a couple of weeks and a bit of soul searching (and a lot of "Well she does have a point" from other friends, she apologised, and slowly improved.The being cruel to be kind theory is a last ditch attempt, but sometimes is the only thing that works. Before that though, suggest doing something that doesn't involve drinking, get a group together to go and see a show, or a fun day out or anything. Slowly get her to relaise that drink is not her friend, but you are. You're there to talk to her about her insecurities, the alcohol just plays on them.It's going to be a bitch of a road, and you will get totally peeved off on a few occassions, but if you feel she's worth it, go for it!
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